My boyfriend bought me my christmas gift, and it's something I don't want. While we were at the store i was trying to hint at him but he didn't seem to catch it. I don't want him to waste his money on something for me that i won't enjoy and i hate acting excited because its not who i am and i hate being dishonest with him. Normally i would jsut tell him that i dont want it but he's been discouraged about getting me a gift because he didnt know what to get and the last thing he almost bought me i owned already and he didnt know. plus he was upset that he went over budget with all his gifts so i dont want him to think he wasted money.. i told him to not buy it and get me something after the holiday and he didnt catch that either.
now it's at my home...
should i just take it and pretend i love it or tell him? and if so how.. i dont want to upset him i think that his heart and mind was in the right place it was just not the right gift.
Thanks.
2006-12-19 15:44:55 · 30 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He and I are both gamers and he got me a game that i've never had any urge to play. It's a sequel and he knows i played the original but honestly i didnt like the orig. that much and the sequels not supposed to be nearly even as good as it.
2006-12-19 15:50:15 · update #1
oh about saying i already have it or just saying thank you and hiding it in a closet like a sweater from grandma.. he lives with me. if i dont play it he'll know. so really it's a tell him or play it
2006-12-19 15:52:54 · update #2
wow you people are rude.
I feel BAD because he spent so much money on it, not because i hate it. I dont want him wasting his money on somethign that wont get used. i think it was sweet of him to get it i just hate that he spent so much money on something that will probably collect dust. ive gotten plenty of crap gifts everyone has, i just dont like wasting his money and i would rahter he take it back and get something cheap than spend almost 1/4 of his christmas budget one something that wont be used.
2006-12-19 15:56:32 · update #3
The husband says that these people who are insulting you, calling you selfish, telling you that you should be happy to have a boyfriend, are all crazy. (Well, he didn't say crazy, but the filter will bleep what he did say so I'll just pre-edit.)
Is there a chance that he wanted to play that game, so he got it for you? If you think that might be the case, buy something for him that you want and then trade. :) If not, we think that you want to find a way to gently tell him that you'd like to exchange the gift. Otherwise, you're compromising the honesty of the relationship and if it comes out down the line in a moment of anger or something like that it will be more hurtful.
2006-12-19 16:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by faeriefolk_15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be ashamed for asking, pardon my boldness. Gifts are just that - something the giver decides to give to you, something that they picked out with their tastes based on how they think you'll react. Gifts are not given because someone owes you or has an obligation. It would be offensive for you to say I don't care about your ideas, only mine and you made a mistake. No - take the gift, ooh and aah, and make the giver feel like it is the best gift he could have picked. You don't have to wear it, like it, or even look at it, really. Just make the guy feel special. Next time make your "hints" less subtle and maybe he'll get the point ahead of time. Enjoy your time with your friend and do your part to build him up.
2006-12-19 15:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by twicewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, i even just signed into my yahoo account to answer this.. first of all IS HE HAVING A JOKE?! It's your seccond year annaversary, id have hit my boyfriend, stred him straight int he face and said, are you F**king serious. You should talk to him about that, say how you felt, and that you thought it was wrong of him after you had sat down and talked about what you were going to get already, and after you had got him what he wanted, and tell him that he cant just smooth you over with a few dollard of s**t. Sorry but id go and tell him for you if i lived in America, (i live in the UK). Thats just so stupid of him, But are you sre he's not going to get you something better, infact let it be known that your p**sed off about it, and yeah maybe you should be a little insulted if, its your 2 YEAR ANAVERSARY!! Your a woman, as am i, go and tell him what he's done wrong!! Dont be shy just let loose! Goodness!! And you rnot even right or anything but you got him waht he wanted... why couldnt he just take yo out to dinner?! Has HE ran out of money or something? Because it seems like you would get him wat he wanted even if you had the last $34 in your pocket! Maybe he just had a dollar, sure your not datin aloe black :P Sorry had to be said.. but yeah talk to him about it, and let me know how it went! Type it in the edit box or something and ill check in a few weeks :P x
2016-03-29 01:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't what he got you it is the thought that counts girl. Don't say anything that would hurt him. He obviously tried really hard to get you the right thing. Maybe it's your own fault that you don't like it. Just next year you should start a head of time trying to hint to him what you would like!!!!
2006-12-19 15:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him that you don't like it.
An aged old question, and most experts agree with me, including the late "Dear Abby".
A little lie is OK, because it is the thought that counts, not the gift.
Guys can never take a hint. They need facts thrown right at them.
2006-12-19 15:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so since he's over budget and you're trying to save him money and face during the holiday ... why not try this
"Mention that someone was talking about game X and you told them you've played it, you couldn't get into it and it wasn't really wasn't so good so you doubt you'd like the sequel to it"
You'd be telling him but not directly
2006-12-19 15:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be better to let this one ride. Maybe you can have a convo about things that you like a few months before your birthday or Xmas next time. However, I think he might be sensitive about this gift, so my advice is to give him thanks, knowing his heart was in the right place. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas.
2006-12-19 15:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship has some give and take. Choose your battles but remember the feelings of your partner. If your that much in love he will take it and you should say let's go exchange it. If your relation is unstable. Tell him !! Nicely as you can.
2006-12-19 16:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tom H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be graceful this year. Next year make a game out of exchanging Christmas lists... Tell him its a new family tradition that you want to include him in! Oh yeah! Don't forget to tell your family...
2006-12-19 15:54:13 · answer #9 · answered by Adrienne C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It already in your house so no point complaining it anymore.
Play a few time and keep it if you really don't like.
Next time prompt him to give you something you want inadvance so that he won't waste on gift you don't like.
2006-12-19 16:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by electricgold2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋