well, i hope this question wont make u feel sad or mad or anything negative.
i asked this question is because i need help from you guys.
recently, i found out that i dont prefer my own race when choosing BF/husband.
i know this may sounds a little racist. i am not racist, and i dont want to become one.
i think my preference of not wanting my own race to become my bf/husband is because some guys of my own race have cheated on me before. as a result, i found them totally non-trustable. i know that every race has both good and bad ppl. and i do know that there are a lot of good ppl in my race.
however, every single time when i see them tried to approach me. i just feel threatened.
i do have friends from my own race and i love them. they are cool and good and i am so proud of them.
1) so what do you think?
2) should i force myself to try to "prefer" them too?
3) or i am fine with this?
4) do anyone of u feel the same as me too?
2006-12-19 15:33:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing racist about this. You've had a bad experience before and now you tend to prefer guys of another race. If you aren't attracted to them or there's no chemistry, then there's no point in forcing a relationship because only bad things will come of it. You won't be happy in the relationship which may lead to him cheating on you. Here's my advice: Forget about race. Enjoy who you're attracted to and don't worry about who you're not attracted to. There are so many interracial relationships in the world, and it's nothing to do with race.
2006-12-19 15:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one of two things wrong. (1) either you have a problem with picking losers (in which case race would not have anything to do with your problem) or (2) your selection is limited to persons with a specific mentality/outlook on life. I get the impression you are young. Men/boys, usually, until they are in their 20's tend to act/think like their peers. language/the way they think/the way they act/their thinking toward girls/women etc. If this is the case you will find that men from different social/economic backgrounds will act/think differently.
It may not be race as much as setting.
2006-12-19 15:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by dulcrayon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair to blame an entire race based on your personal experience of few or several men from your race. Whom you date is your choice. But to categorize everyone is PREJUDICE. What is the guarantee that a guy from other race will not hurt you? Universally, Men are same. Colors dont change their basic instincts.
2006-12-19 15:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by George L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even have to ask this. You choose who you want and its noone elses business. You are not under any obligation to remain 'faithful' to your race. That thinking went out over 50 years ago (I know because I'm 45 and my parents were brave enough to marry who they loved and not who society told them to like)
2006-12-19 15:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be you, you'd actually be suprised at how many people prefer to date outside their own race.
2006-12-19 15:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by Perfectly Unperfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just date who you want ta date i have a friend who is white and has never dated a white guy now i have dated black men white men and a chines guy race is nothing these day just be your self and do what you want ta do and don't worrie
2006-12-19 15:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT EVERY YOUR REASON FOR THIS DECISION, IT YOURS AND YOU SHOULD NOT WORRY ABOUT IT, THE FACT OF THE MATTER YOU WILL FIND THE LOVE OF YOUR
LIFE THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIS COLOR. BUT
I CAN UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL WHEN YOU BEEN
HURT YOU DONT TRUST. BUT NO TWO PEOPLE ARE
ALIKE .
2006-12-19 15:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋