When are you old enough to get married?

Question

me and my bf love each other to death. hes 21 an im 19 1/2. altoghter weve got about $10G saved up. he works 4 days a wk with low pay, i work 5 days an some wknds. his family loves me, my parents are getting used to him (lol). i know if we suddenly got engaged my parents would flip and his family an all our friends would say "your too young".. truth is we want kids too.. as in now! (i wont have kids until im married)

Answer 1

The big question is: Do you feel ready to get married?

You're both old enough.

If you don't feel ready, then you should wait awhile until you're sure.

Answer 2

I understand you loving him and wanting these things, but what's the rush??? How long have you been together? It sounds like your experiencing euphoria, which usually happens early on in a relationship. If that's the case, give it time, that feeling will subside and reality will set in, then you will be able to make the decision with a much clearer head...Why isn't just loving each other to death good enough right now? What does marriage mean to you? If it's the hurry to have a child, I understand the urge, but do set yourselves up better finincially first, as endless as a parents love is, children cannot live off of love alone. It's heartbreaking to watch your child go without. They don't need $200 running shoes, but right now you two probably couldn't afford to cover daycare costs, right? So one of you would have to quit work to take care of the baby....but neither of you have a job the can keep a family of three...Your not too young to do these things, but is it the best choice for you two right now and will it prove to be in the future?? Probably not.

Answer 3

you are leagally old enough to get married now if you want without your parent's permission. if you don't plan on going to school/college now then go ahead and just do it. if it's meant to last then you'll make it work and money wno't be a problem. find an apartment complex that has low income housing. you'll only have to pay a certain amount (usually pretty low) depending on how much money you have and how much you make each week. if you think you're ready then go for it. i'm almost 20 and i've been with my bf for 2 years. we've talked about marriage and moving in together and stuff, but we decided to wait til we were both done with college. then when we get married we're gonna wait at least 3-5 years before we start having kids. i REALLY want a kid now, but i know that would ruin my goals in life. but it all comes down to what you're ready for. if you're ready for married life, kids, bills, laundry, grocery shopping, etc. then i'd say go for it. as long as he makes you happy then nothing else should get in your way. just make sure you're ready for all that life will throw at you.

Answer 4

so i dont think you guys are too young to get married but i do think that you guys are not financially stable enought to have kids..not yet at least!! I am 19 almost 20 and i just got engaged this past weekend, but i do not feel the need to have kids anytime soon! especially if neither one of you guys have good paying jobs! kids coast alot of money! but getting engaged that is not that big of a deal..how long have you two been together is my next question?

Answer 5

build up the bank account and whou think you have enough then get married it could be as little as a year of savings or 5 years of savings but make sure your not in a financial bind when the kids come around. to answer your question the age is really when the family would be financially ready. be happy, wait so money is not a problem." work to live" as my father says.

Answer 6

I am 65 yrs old there is no age on getting married you half to, have commitment and maturity far to many people forget there wedding vow's and reason why they had gotten married age does not matter there are some people who are 35 and not ready for marriage
I have been married for 36yrs my wife was 17 when I met her and i was 27 we only had to two dates when i ask her to marry me the only picture i carry of my wife and that is her senior picture and when we have our knock down difference and you will I will take her picture out look at it and remember all the reason why i married her you can't forget the reason you married someone

Answer 7

You two are of legal age to get married. However, I take it neither of you have a college education? The reason I mention that is because with a college education you will be more able to support the children you wish to have. You could get married now, if you wanted to, or you could wait. The choice is yours. In the end your life is your own and you must live it for yourself.

Answer 8

Well, the real question is... r u ready?? sometimes we think we r ready but when it happens, we r actually unprepared. U hv 2 ask urself and think when will be the right time.. U r old enough 2 get married is when u r ready 2 face the challenge of marriage..

Answer 9

You both should be worrying about graduating college and getting set in your careers...not about having kids and such. It is great that you have the money saved up, but it would be better spent on an education. Don't throw your lives away because later on you'll regret it!

Answer 10

Make sure you have done everything you want to do while your single. Make education a priority because once you get married and have kids it is very hard to go back to school. Sacrifice a little now and you will reap the rewards later.

Answer 11

the question is are you prepared to live a marriage life. If you two feel you are really ready for a commitment you can make it work and With love and a good open communication.