there is a girl I love, and I am sure she loves me too. But she doesn't want to go out with me. why?
2006-12-19 15:15:31 · 20 answers · asked by Alex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, I am 21, and she is 19. I have gone out with so many girls, so it's not about me. After I got sure that she loved me, I asked her out, for a date, so we could know each other better, but she said that she hates dating!!! she wants to be my girlfriend and calls me everyday, but...I just don't get it :(
2006-12-19 15:34:01 · update #1
Dating is a very casual thing. She hates dating, she wants a relationship. She wants to be serious, not casual. It's probably because she's scared of you moving on after your date with her.
2006-12-19 16:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Metro 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There can be various reasons. How well do you know her? How old are you and her? Her parents might not let her start going out yet if she isn't of late-adolescent age. Does she like somebody else or is already occupied? If all those questions lead to no; then she might as well be not ready for it yet. Get closer to her and become good friends first, then you'll learn her interests and background and find out why she is not willing to date.
I'm not sure if girls would hate dating. I personally find the idea addictive and attracting, but perhaps others might find it differently. They probably have higher standards.
2006-12-19 15:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Pariah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of girls that I've met have been burned to many times by guys that are players, now I'm not saying that women aren't players as well but a lot of times it make them worried about trust issues i found that if your really sincere about this girl tell her how you feel and let her choose when it's time to start dating, by doing this it gives her the choice to decide if she's ready to date again. Now maybe she just likes you as a friend and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by turning you down, anyway just tell her how you feel and let her know that you'll wait for her to make the decision but tell her that you won't wait forever.
2006-12-19 15:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questions
1. how can you be sure she loves you too?
2. has she said that she does not like dating?
3. has she told you why she will not go out with you?
4. and if she has, why can you not just accept that?
5. how old are you?
I will not date a guy unless, I am considering him to be marriage material...I do not date just for fun...
2006-12-19 15:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur realllly sure she feels the same way about u, maybe she is just scared of getting hurt, maybe she has been hurt bad before and doesnt want to make the 'same mistake again'. maybe she DOES really like you, but doesnt see it going for long so doesnt want to bother getting messed up in a relationsihp. maybe she is hiding something from you. maybe shes one of those flirty girls who treats all boys nice so they chase after them.
maybe maybe maybe. but trust me, not that many girls hate dating, and if they do, theres usually a good reason for it. good luck.
2006-12-19 15:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We girls are interesting creatures, we need to be able to trust someone before agreeing to anything. Do you know this girl really well? Does she know you really well? Maybe shes been hurt in the passed and is afraid or maybe she really dosnt like you, all i can really say is become her friend first and then see what happens, good luck :)
2006-12-19 15:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have had a past experience that shes afraid might happen again, you have to gain her trust, and it might be more difficult than if were to gain another girls. If you truly love her than youll do everything to try.
2006-12-19 15:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What it seems you are asking is why some girls hate dating YOU.
2006-12-19 15:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by Gibaudrac D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls find going out uncomfortable. instead of a date, give her a modest bouquet of daisies. that will show her that you're not mad about her not wanting to go out with you. it shows that you love her and you want to do whatever makes her happy
2006-12-19 15:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wants to be your friend for a while. Give it time. If you really like her you will wait till she is ready.
God Bless - Merry Christmas
2006-12-19 15:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by garden_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋