So I've been talking to this guy for about a month now...and he's really sweet and we mesh very well. My only issue is that when I mention anything about God, church, he doesn't share the same enthusiasm as me, or really doesn't seem to care. He goes to church and says he's a christian...could this just be typical male behavior, or his he just painting a pretty picture of his faith?
2006-12-19 15:14:34 · 14 answers · asked by Cute as button72886 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Could be...
2006-12-19 15:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people do not want to show much enthusiasm when it's concerning Faith, but I am pretty sure that he does have a love for the Lord as you do, only he does not want to show it. Give him time to get to know you and I am sure that with time he will be talking about his faith and the love he has for God. Knowing a person for a mo. is too soon to talk about religion. I hope that you would not be disappointed once you get to know him more.
2006-12-19 23:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously God fearing, so let the bible (God's words) guide you. It is written in Revelation 3:15-16, "15 I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were cold or else hot. 16 So, because you are lukewarm and neither hot nor cold, I am going to vomit you out of my mouth. . ." Furthermore, "(Proverbs 6:12-14) 12 A good-for-nothing man, a man of hurtfulness, is walking with crookedness of speech, 13 winking with his eye, making signs with his foot, making indications with his fingers. 14 Perverseness is in his heart. He is fabricating something bad all the time. He keeps sending out merely contentions." And you should consider, "(1 Timothy 5:24-25) 24 The sins of some men are publicly manifest, leading directly to judgment, but as for other men [their sins] also become manifest later. 25 In the same way also the fine works are publicly manifest and those that are otherwise cannot be kept hid." These references suggests that God will deal with him if he is about deception or trickery; and his dishonesty, if any, shall eventually get exposed. So don't prejudge, but you are right to keep an eye on his heart, attitude (his way of thinking) and commitments, and perhaps question them as someone with whom you are choosing to associate.
2006-12-19 23:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by omahaman1954 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I go to church and am a christian and am saved, but I can't say I'm entushiastic when I talk to people about it, but I'm not really entusiasmiticmsn period... I wouldn't say he is "painting a pretty picture of his faith"
2006-12-19 23:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think we can measure another's faith. Faith is not what you say, it is what you do. How you treat others, If he is a Christian, you will know it. Each person's relationship with God is personal A lack of enthusiasm is not a measure of faith.
2006-12-19 23:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably just typical male behavior, chances are that if he is telling you he is christian and everything its true, just because he is not getting overly excited about it and everything or just doesn't want to talk about it much doesn't really mean anything like that he is lying to you... its probably just male behavior so unless you have any larger reasons to think he is lying, i wouldn't think too much of it....
2006-12-19 23:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by Justin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes all men are the same. My husband was the same way and one time, something went seriously wrong and I told him to come with me to church and pray with full faith and commitment and from then onwards, he is very active and participates with full heart and soul
2006-12-19 23:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by SP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't get very enthusiastic. Maybe he's one of those people who say they're Christian and go through the motions b/c of how they were raised, but really don't buy into it all. Maybe he's lying altogether. Just bring it up and see what the deal is and decide if you want him from there.
2006-12-19 23:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure but you could try suggesting going to church together and see what happens. If he seems uncomfortable about it then he may not be telling the truth.
2006-12-19 23:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is ask him. No one can read minds, even the demons lack that ability. Use your faith to being him closer to Him and you should be fine. But, honestly, how can you expect to know about him if you don't ask.
2006-12-19 23:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Heero Yui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>Probably. He may just be being sensible about it.
You are probably getting ready to miss a real good one due to your misplaced "enthusiasm".
Sorry, for you both.<
2006-12-19 23:24:02 · answer #11 · answered by Druid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋