Ok, my boyfriend really doesn't act like a boyfriend; we go for days without talking. He's never home when I call him. And when we talk we never really talk about anything. And now that he's my boyfriend I don't seem to have feeling for him, like I did when he was just my crush! What should I do?
2006-12-19 15:04:18 · 17 answers · asked by sidekickLX! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is why crushes suck. It's so easy to like someone when you can't have them, but once you get them some of the excitement goes out of it. A lot of times when the boy is still just the crush you have a lot left to imagine about him.. does that make sense? Let me re word it- before he was your boyfriend you didn't know as much about him as you do now. That means you can sit and imagine how he really is and make up the perfect details in your head, it's not so easy to do that now.
I honestly think you should just break it off with him. Not just because he isn't acting like a boyfriend, but you said so yourself that you don't really have the feelings for him anymore. If you are worried about hurting him, look at it this way, the longer you wait to break up with him the more attached he will become to you. It's better not to lead him on. Just be straight forward,(yes I know this is easier said than done.), tell him you just don't have romantic feelings for him and that you think you guys might just be better friends right now.
I hope this helps you out and good luck!
2006-12-19 15:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to figure out if he's your boyfriend. Next most people don't know the difference between attraction and chemistry. Attraction is purely physical, chemistry is a natural force that keeps you together based on mutual respect, likemindedness and adoration for each other. You've gotten past the attraction and now you see him for what he really is boring, dull, noncommunicative and if he's never home he's probably with another female. Don't waste your time, life is too short. It's better to have hurt feelings than a broken heart. Tell him that you think its better that you're just friends. Believe me, a man would have no problem telling you that if that's how he feels.
2006-12-19 23:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by indepwman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what happen was you liked the idea of chasing a guy rather that actually liking the guy and its not good to stay in a relantionship if you dont really like him
PLUS from what i can tell you have no conversation and thats not good at all so i would tell him that you realized you dont like him like you thought you did and that its better to remain friends and only friends
2006-12-19 23:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by *meggie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him and tell him u just what to be friends because he acts like he don't what to be with u anyways and there's more fish in the sea then just one and maybe u will find more happiest out there and everyone needs someone to make them happy
2006-12-19 23:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by D F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he too feels the same way, either improve the situation, or agree to split and move on.
2006-12-19 23:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have the feelings then you shoudnt be with him maybe just as good friends thats all. And god knows where he is all the time.
2006-12-19 23:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Juls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should obviously bring this up to him. this way you can still both be friends without feeling weird because of a messy breakup. it will probably be mutual
2006-12-19 23:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by nora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him! He does not sound like he is into you. Find someone who makes your heart flutter!
2006-12-19 23:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal thing gurls.....
it happened to me past 4 months ago...
we never seen like couples...like nothings going on btween us...
but when he really ready,he show his love to me...
now we are so happy...our real relations juz begins...
but belives me dont make a stupid move yet...
take time....
they just dont ready to show their love...
soon they will show u...belives me...
give them times...okay...
2006-12-19 23:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by Girl S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it he might not like you anymore or he might just be like that asa boyfriend
2006-12-19 23:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋