2006-12-19 15:01:19 · 9 answers · asked by angie angelbody 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
It sounds to me that you might feel guilty about not being able to be at her bedside. People give what they can. At this point in time you appear not able to give to her your presence. Ask your self what can you give? Can you send your a video, flowers, cards, or some other special delivery item? then there are you thought s and prayers.
this is a diddicult time you you and your family. Try to acknowledge that you are giving and doing the best that you can. May you find your own peace and healing during this dark time. God Bless and God's speed.
2006-12-19 15:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by copestir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being able to be with your mother in her final years, helping care for her and telling her what you need/want her to know can prove to be very difficult indeed (depending on how close you two were in younger years ...). Here are a few ideas which may help you:
Talk to your remaining family and/or friends. Find someone who will listen ... he/she does not have to reply or give advice. Do not try to do this alone. A good friend will understand and allow you to vent, to cry or to laugh.
Remember and honour your mother. Investigate her family tree, collect family photographs and/or share stories of her.
Find an expressive outlet. Talking to others helps but also consider other forms of communication. When my father was alive and declining due to Alzheimer's disease, I found that writing was very therapeutic ... I spent hours bent over my keyboard without worry of anyone judging my words. Keep a journal to record your thoughts and memories.
Write a letter to your mother. She may or may not ever see this. In the letter, tell her all you want her to know and never had the opportunity to do so.
Take care of yourself. While your mother's life is ending, yours will continue. Do take the necessary time to grieve (don't let anyone hurry you through this process ...). Try to maintain regular eating and sleeping patterns, exercise and balance your life's responsibilities.
2006-12-19 15:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since this is an immigration question, it sounds like there is a legal prohibition against you going (ie your are here illegally). If that is so, then the reality is that you are trading your mother's last days for the economic benefits of staying here illegally. It is your choice. But later when you get deported, how will you feel?
Everything has a cost. If that is a true assessment of the situation, you are paying the hard cost willingly.
Sorry about your mother.
If this is not the case email me and I will see if I can help you.
2006-12-20 01:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly that sucks rocks...
If you really don't have the resources to travel to see her, and there is no one willing or able to help you travel, you're going to have to deal with this on your own.
You will need to seek comfort from friends and loved ones who are local to you... there is simply no other choice. If you have a spiritual guide of some sort, talk with them, express you feelings and ask for guidance.
If you are not the spiritual type - or lack a spiritual guide, talk with a therapist if you are suffering from severe depression over your mother's dying.
Most importantly seek out support from loved ones.
-dh
2006-12-19 15:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make every effort possible to go see her. But if you can't - talk to her on the phone everyday and don't miss OUT ON ANYTHING - any discussion or any question you want to ask her and tell her you love her 1 million times.
God Bless..my heart goes out to you.
2006-12-19 15:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get an emergency VISA and a passport issued to you in 24 hours in this case. Go fly to her today.
2006-12-19 15:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find strength from the Lord. He will guide you through your most difficult moments!
2006-12-19 15:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by OPTIMUS DIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe going to talk to someone professional will help you through it as well as help you see things in a different perspective. I hope you get through it ok
2006-12-19 15:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by sweetkyle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her on the telephone as often as you can.
2006-12-19 15:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋