I'm at my wits end. We try to be good parents but he is so short with us a lot and he's also having occasional problems in school. He's very outgoing, yet no kids call the house to play with him. He is sometimes very lively and funny but other times he is very sullen and mad at anything I say to him.
Does this sound like depression and how should we treat this? I don't want to over react but I don't want to undereact either. Also, I heard that anti-depression drugs don't work well with young children.
Thanks for responding. I'm bumming out here and I just want to get the best help for my son.
2006-12-19 14:56:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
BE GENTLE YET FIRM.....? Show him love, and understanding. remain strong and consistant in reguards to what is and isnt acceptable behavior.
When he is messing up badly, make sure you DO NOT tell him or make him feel that you love him less, or think HE is BAD. It is Important that he Underestands, it is behavior you are upset about NOT HIM AS A PERSON.
If Depression, which could be a contributing factor. It needs to be treated, however you and your sons doctor decide is best. BUT it is not something that he can control. And it doesnt make itself better.
My 7yo son became so depressed after new baby, that he talked daily of not wanting to be alive. He felt worthless, and stupid. He was convinced EVERYONE Hated him... (and he honestly believed it). During the times he wasn't in this state of mind, The Anger he had inside of him was scary. His older brother became his target both physically and verbally.
I decided i would take a chance with anti-depressants. I felt his life depended on it. Depression is something that I have been dealing with since I was young.(I dont know exactly when) I just know that If I had been diagnosed as a child instead of waiting 30+yrs, my life would have been alot different.
enough of that, I kept my son on a sm mg. for 30days, it was enough to bring him out of the non-responsive state he had fallen into. He was able to hear and think beyond the darkness. Now we Still have the Anger-, not something medication is the answer for. Had he been treated sooner, we could have avoided, his fall into that deep pit -at such a tender age. I feel guilty for letting this happen.
Dont set back and let your son suffer, if something CAN be done to help him.
STOP-let me step back &add this also>>>
maybe its not depression at all. Perhaps he is just going through a bratty stage... Is he an only child? have you raised older children? I dont have older kids. 9.8,2ys all boys. Maybe the anger and disrespect (though I cant believe-) are just boys growing up. and it shall pass??
When I get it figured out (or if) Id be happy to share the secrets learned along the way!
GOOD LUCK!
as for children and anti-depressants/ my trusted pediatrician explained it to me... that the high sucicde/attempt are usually the ones who went untreated too long & had reached the limit of what they could withstand. They were suicidal before starting Rx. Unfortunatley not soon enough to change the tragic outcome in these cases. Of course it is unknown what earlier treatment Rx would have been sucessful.?
Just weigh your options .. risk/benefits??
Sorry its so long...But i hope something I had to say is helpful to you and your son.
Happy Holidays to you & yours
2006-12-20 06:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he had a few form of great bodily or intellectual incapacity that forestalls him from operating, I'd provide him ninety days get a role after which get out. If he does have a significant incapacity, then I'd aid him get SSI after which make him get out. In the imply time, I could provide him a record of chores he was once to do each week and inform him to quit being disrespectful. If he did not pull up, he could sleep within the backyard in tent till he both pulled up or located different preparations.
2016-09-03 17:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by winkels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a normal developmental stage - albiet a challenging one! Those mood swings are classic signs of the onset of puberty. I'd still consult a Dr. to rule out depression and also confirm his normal development, just to ease your mind.
I suggest you enroll him in a reputable martial arts program. Shop around and ask the instructor/owners how much experience thay have with unruly kids. A good program will be happy to answer all your questions and have a plan to show you before you commit to a long-term program.
He will learn respect and discipline, in addition to providing a physical outlet for his energy. Most kids respond very well to a role model other than their parent teaching them discipline and respect.
2006-12-19 15:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by not yet 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to worry about. It is quite natural sometimes for them to react that way. Talk to him when he is cheerful and get to understand him better. He might speak out. Explain to him how you felt when he shouted at you. He will understand. When he is mad, dont react. Take it easy. He will work around it. He is 9 yrs old. Anti depressants will take a heavy toll on him. Good Luck!!
2006-12-19 15:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by George L 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
read 1-2-3 magic. sounds like he needs some discipline and to learn how to respect you. You could also try stripping his room of all his stuff except for bedding and clothes. Also take away outings/ sport etc. Then he needs to earn his stuff back through respectful behaviour.You'd better get it under control now while he is still young. Imagine when he's a teen.
2006-12-19 15:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by deedee 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you about resisting anti-depressant drugs. He doesn't sound depressed from what you've said here, tho.
Did your son go to day care? Children who enter day care before age 3 have high rates of depression and anxiety. They also have bonded less well with their parents and they are very angry at their parents for abandoning them and giving them such a lousy life. Or is this new?
2006-12-19 15:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Check into the symptoms of O.D.D. It sounds like your son could be afflicted with this syndrome. Look it up on Search and if he fits their criteria, check with your pediatrician as soon as you can.
2006-12-19 15:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by smcdevitt2001 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it is because you let him do it. you are the parent you need to get control. when he disrespects you spank him. (my parents did it every time, i dont even think about disrespecting them any more. when he is angry at you send him to his room and dont let him out the rest of the day, if at night dont let him out of his room the next day. give him only 2 peices of bread and some water for each meal. if he gets worse spank him and continue to treet him like a prisoner. My dad teaches at the prison around here, this is exatly the way he describes the inmates. if he cannot get control of his anger now he will end up in the prison. give him a little taste of it now and maby he will learn. my dad did it to my siblings and i, it taught us right and probably saved us from prison.
2006-12-19 16:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
1.kids learn what they are taught
2.you tolerate what you allow.
is he an only child ? Perhaps you allowed him to get away with things,now your paying for it !
2006-12-20 10:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
have you ever wrap your child? A hit on the hand just enough to make him cry. And tell him no
2006-12-19 14:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by bianca b 2 · 1⤊ 7⤋