My gf is really great but there is one problem... SHE wont listen to me? Please, i need some advice!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

She cannot afford to listen.

To listen requires that she hear you. To listen to you would violate her innate law as a woman to succeed at her own self-serving plan, which gets in the way of her single track nature of looking at things.

The answer and reasoning is abstract...

She wants the applications, not the overriding principles.

Men are different. Think about this; men tend to put things into principles first and look far to discern possible consequences. In short, men look for the patterns, the precisions...the things hidden in the larger picture, if you will...

Notice how when women discuss matters, how they discuss the personality in a thing, the more narrow and peculiar of the concern, not the broader aspects.

They tend to the peculiarity of the experience, as uniquely experienced and as only she can experience it and none other.

And because women are naturally more verbal, they proceed to the girlfriend or girlfriends -- other pecularities -- in which they can all agree to agree, though there may prove no unifying quality, no pattern -- regardless of whether the conclusion is correct or not.

But correctness, see?, is really not what they are seeking in the first place. Rather they are seeking what satisfies how they see it and to what extent they can find others who agree as well.

That girlfriend or girlfriend she has sought for answers discusses only 'her' own experience of it back to the first girl.

In any case, seldom if ever do they come to a broader insight that provides that there exists a still greater commonality from which can be derived some deeper question without suffering the lower realities involved.

Put it into somewhat mathematical terms as an analogy here:

Men establish themselves as a function of the most common denominator.

Women establish themselves as a function of the numerator.

Denominators take a look at all other denominators and draw a common quality that each can represent, one that reflects the qualities of all other denominators so as to derive a principle, something stable and workable, a grounding, say. See?

Numerators do not do this; it is not their function. Each is what it is, peculiar unto itself and makes no effort to draw of the qualities of the other numerators.

Only when the denominators in each expression have exchanged quantities so that each is equal can the numerators then begin to add or subtract and resolve to a solid conclusion.

Neither of these, numerator or denominator, is superior to the other, just different. And once this is realized, then this becomes easier to deal with -- though not necessarily easy outright. This would not be likely. Why? The denominator depends on the numerator to be the denominator and as well, the numerator depends on the denominator to be the numerator. Do you see here?

One depends on the other in order to exist, is all I am saying here, just as we depend on the night to know the day, and vice versa... We have to know up before we can know what down is...

Thus, we have to know what woman is to know what man is with respect to any exchange; and we have to know what man is in order to know what woman is.

I am speaking here about that most primordial and essential part of us as human beings... aside from all the social claptrap and baloney on female and male issues that has become so infamous in the USA.

Answer 2

Listen, this happens all the time. The best way to handle this is to act like you don't care. Boy does this work. Women always think they are right, so tell her she is all the time even if she isn't.
Quit asking her to do things, things she has to listen too. You'll get it after about 3 days. Then she'll start listening.

Answer 3

You didn't give enough information. Is she not an attentive listener or are you wanting her to do what you say?
If she won't listen and do what you say then good for her.
If however she doesn't pay any attention to your conversation, you might note that you need a new gal that enjoys being with you.

Answer 4

call her or email or write to her saying u dont listen to me! we need to talk. ill calll u at (sometime or another u put exact time) and call her. if she starts talking put it nicely that u think that u she should listen to u and jsu tthis once pelease

ps put everything in the nicest way possibel as u said shes great dont break it u want to make it better . plus u might want to add how great she is and ur only trying to make the realationship better not worse.

Answer 5

Are you kidding? How on earth do you date a girl who doesn't listen to you? If it is somehow a good relationship that you want to keep working at, perhaps try not listening to her, AND just do whatever YOU want to do all the time. See how she reacts. If she's like, WTF?, then ask her to start listening to you for a change...

Answer 6

A women that doesn't listen is to into herself and probably doesn't care about anyone but herself.It's all about her and what she's going to gain.Best of Luck...

Answer 7

Tell her how you feel about it. Don't wait until the end of the relationship (If there is a end for you and her) to tell her that was one of the reasons it ended.

Answer 8

women never listen get over it

Answer 9

women dont want your advice, they just want you to listen and say UH HUH every two minutes, learn it and use it.

Answer 10

You don't need a girl friend. You need a slave. Then you can beat her until she listens.