My financee lied to me and seen another woman in another country while on R&R. We are suppose to get married in April. He sent her flowers a few times, but he does send friends flowers. I invested the flower account and noticed only all my flowers he sends, say "I love you". But do you send "friends" roses on valentines day. He has appologized over and over and says he knows he messed up and will do whatever it takes to rebuild my trust. He promised he would never hurt me again. He keeps saying over and over how much he loves me. I love him with all my heart, but my heart still hurts undescribely over what he did. I want it work with us, I love him with all my heart. For over 2 years I remained faithful to him, while he was in Iraq and he does this to me. Should I give him another chance?
2006-12-19 14:14:34 · 9 answers · asked by taken2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well it would depend on your emotional state. do you feel like you could give him another chance? or do you want to just write him off? i doubt that because you are here. maybe while he was over in iraq he looked to her for comfort because he was home sick and didnt have you. i am sure he loves you, either he wouldnt have come back. but i would definately say wait on getting married for a while. maybe try pre-marital counseling. when a relationship is betrayed it takes years to build back that trust. he cant expect you to up and forgive him just because he came back. (btw no one sends there friends flowers on valentine's day unless their friend just got dumper or something)
but a lot of time soldiers get home sick or they get pressured into things they dont want to do. over in iraq it is a completely different world. getting shot at everyday for a few years can really change a person's life. he was probably just lonely and needed to feel comfort or safety. so he found her. but dont give up hope. you two can still be happy together. but definately postpone the wedding for a while. you need time to heal and he needs time to earn back your trust.
2006-12-19 14:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jezyka Isabella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in your letter you sound too easy, what i mean is tuff love 4 you. If you continue to give all of yourrself to him in time he will cheat again. Men love the chase of a relationship and when we catch it and over time the chase dies because women are just too easy once they have the ring. Try to make him chase u again like when you first met. make him a little jealous leave notes around of other men (fake notes---dont say a black man) Enjoy life and take care of family
2006-12-19 14:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by drewdog65 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really all it comes down to is this, can you trust him? do you think with time you'd ever be able to trust him again? because if you dont think you can your just wasting everyones time because no matter how much you love him you'll never be happy with him again till you can trust him and put the past away. its been my experiance that these things hardly ever work out. best of luck to you though. and the roses on val's day NOT GOOD.
2006-12-19 14:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, cheating is absolutely unacceptable. First of all, if it were me, I'd never be able to trust the guy again - who knows if he would do this again? Secondly, although this sucks, if he's cheating...then he's having some kind of issues too.
2006-12-19 14:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Shanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tuffy. I mean to give him some credit he didnt like sleep with her, but its got to start somewhere right. What you should be worried about is will this behavior progress to him having sex with other women. I would like test him, to see if he is really gunna stay true to you. Talk with him too. If he really want to be with you he will do what ever it takes to prove himself to you.
good luck
2006-12-19 14:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by chetzel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the dude went to iraq u have to give him some slack for that. alothought what he did was wrong he is begging for forgivness and i figure you should give him another chance but tell him its his last chance but if it hurts you that much you could let him go!
2006-12-19 14:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Reaper G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, one more chance." Screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice shame on me", just keep a close eye(not obvious) on him and see how he does, but try to keep yourself forewarned of his past indiscretion and don't forget it.
2006-12-19 14:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by XXXDirtyDirtyGirlXXX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i didn't read the story but if you are asking that question then you probably shouldn't.
2006-12-19 14:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-12-19 14:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by mike Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋