Why have I never gone on a date?

Question

I am 19 and I have never had a girlfriend. Actually, i have never even gone on a date. I really dont have any friends that are girls. I know i am very shy, but i thought everyone finds their mates by my age. Anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

You need to start talking to girls, not necessarily to get a girlfriend but to get experience and to broaden your mind about women.

Answer 2

There is a very big misconception that causes a lot of frustration in people's lives. It is the idea that things will "just happen". Sure, a lot of people have had a mate by the age of 19. But there are just as many people who haven't. Nothing just happens, and you having a girlfriend isn't going to just appear out of thin air. It's obvious that you have a lot of self consciousness around the opposite sex. This is normal. But you're going to have to work against it if you want to have someone special in your life. Is there something in your physical appearance that makes you stay isolated? If it is fixable, fix it. Whether it be your teeth, weight, pimples, etc., if it is in your power to do something about it, do it. You already have enough to deal with, you need to start out at least confident in who you are physically. Secondly, a lot of women will not approach a man, even if they are attracted to them. You will have to make the first move. Find someone that you think is interesting in class, or somewhere where you can have repeated exposure. Use a recently discussed topic as an opener, and go for it. You are going to make mistakes but that's how you will learn. And when the time is right, you'll meet someone that makes your heart sing and you will have loads of practice under your belt so you will feel more confident and sure of yourself. Good luck!

Answer 3

Few people have found a mate by your age these days. Television and computers have delayed the age at which young people meet the opposite sex, because it stops them going out to group activities such as sport etc.
Find an activity you like, find a group in your area that does it, and join, particularly if there are girls there. Relax and enjoy the activities. Your focus should not be on attracting girls.
Everything else will just happen at its own pace. You never know..

Answer 4

I was 21 when I went on my first date. Relax; for some people it happens later than others. I was terminally shy, and in the end a girl asked ME out rather than vice-versa. If I'd asked more girls when I was younger it might not have taken so long!

Chances are good you simply need to meet more people and get a little experience being turned down. Sure, it hurts, but the more often it happens the easier it gets - until finally you can move on to someone else who WILL say yes.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I think you answered your own question. You mentioned that you are VERY SHY. I use to be that way and barely had any friends growing up. Unfortunately, this trait makes it rather impossible to meet people, especially when meeting the opposite sex.

You may have had opportunities pass you by because of your shyness. Can you try to overcome that? I had to come out of my shell while growing up. I put myself out there. No, I forced myself. To make a long story short, I started out with a very small group and began to branch out to help overcome by shyness. Eventually, I became a chatterbox.

People who appears confident and can conduct intellectually stimulating conversations often catches other people's eyes. It's a rather appealing quality rather it be within relationships or business. If you can overcome that, you may surprise yourself and find yourself with a date on Saturday night.

p.s. I agree with answerer goodcouns

Answer 6

Its normal. You will date soon.
Im 17 and never dated before yet.
All I know is that God have the plan for me.
So, instead of waiting, I just go have fun with friends than sitting around waiting for a lover.

Answer 7

You need to get out there, maybe find out about girls through other friends, see if she is single, and then try to talk to her about things you have in common...

Answer 8

don't worry i am sure there is someone who likes you and you may not even know. your still young so you should be fine. but your going to have to open your mouth are people are going to walk all over you like you are a nobody.

Answer 9

just ask someone. No one is going to come out of the blue and ask you out. so get some couarge and ask a girl out.

Answer 10

i have no idea becuase im in the same boat as you (guys), maybe its a confidence thing...or a vibe were sending out.