2006-12-19 13:57:30 · 17 answers · asked by Shutt 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
When I went to rehab, they had a saying, "Fake it until you make it."
Think about that for awhile. You are who you believe you are. If you believe you are no one, you are a no one. Changing your beliefs about yourself are as simple as repeating (or have someone tell you) what you want to hear over and over. Be who you want to be by telling yourself and pretending to be the person you want to be over and over, every day, every week, for a month. Write your goals down and read them daily. Successful people are successful because they've "programmed" themselves to be that way or been "programmed" to be that way by their parents or peers. This is basically thought control. (some might call it brainwashing, but that has negative connotations) If you practice this diligently and purposefully, you can become whoever you want to be in about a month. I was severly (suicidally) depressed for nearly five years. I got over it using a method similar to this. My life has never been better since I learned this technique. It's called "cognitive therapy". If you want to know more, email me and I'll give you some links to happiness and fulfillment.
2006-12-19 14:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hid from others and myself until my mid 20's. I would even hang up if a live person answered when I called a movie theater. Then ever so slowly I started to branch out starting with 'safe' activities and people. After another 20 years of effort I can now be hard to shut up but I get along with most anyone and have been involved in many volunteer jobs and projects.
You might start with one or two things that you enjoy and are comfortable with. Finding out who and what we are is a life long process and we are constantly changing.
2006-12-19 14:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Monita Marler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously well skilled at entertaining yourself and engaging yourself in activities that do not require other people. Your next step is to take the activities you enjoy out into public. For example, if you love reading, you could get a job at a library, or take some English classes. If you enjoy movies, you could join a theatre group. If you enjoy gaming, you could explore options to develop gaming software or work in an electronics store.
Each person has something to offer the world, otherwise, we wouldn't be here. Take a good look at what brings you peace and joy and share that with the world, one person at a time. You'll soon find yourself surrounded by people who share your passions.
Good luck to you, and remember, a smile is the best ice breaker.
2006-12-19 14:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by Julie N 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A good way to start would be to stand in front of the mirror, pull up a chair if you need to. Introduce yourself to yourself. Start by saying, "hello my name is...". Then say your interests and likes and dislikes as if you were speaking to another person.'You can also start a journal and just write one ting a day. It doesn't have to be great or profound or anything. Just like, "I really like the shirt I have on today" or "I don't like it when I wake up feeling lonely." After you do that for a while you will get to know yourself. You can become your own best friend.
Then pick one person to say hello to and start talking and it may bring you out of your shell.
It might sound kind of funny but there are many people who say daily affirmations in the mirror every morning to start their day with some positive input.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-19 14:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by miso1cat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You live you life day to day and do what feels right. Do what makes you happy and live each day to it's fullest. No one can tell you how to be happy or how to live your life. You have to look inside yourself. Also don't buy into all the crap that others say about their "true" self. Nobody know who the are or what they want. We all have "ideas" but nobody ever really knows for sure. Just relax and be happy, do what comes natural. Most people go their whole live and never self actualize. Meaning they never really find out their full potential. So just stop stressing. Your young too, the world always looks a little scary, but it gets better trust me. Good luck sweetie, and happy searching!!
2006-12-19 14:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by Giselle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you've hidden and avoided contact for 19 years, you probably know who are better than any other person alive.
If you still have doubts, hide and avoid contact for another seven years.
2006-12-19 14:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sabrina H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Learn from the man who was called Ramana Maharshi
2006-12-19 14:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by no_mystery30 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about who you are. BE YOURSELF!!! Don't worry about what other people think of you. We are ALL different but yet the same. Be whom you want to be and don't be affraid of it. Others will get to know who you are and what you are like. If they like you-fine. If not, don't worry because then you are being something they want you to be. You can live easier being YOU and not SOMEONE whom they want you to be.
2006-12-19 23:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one really knows who they really are, everyones reality is a basis of what they want to believe. you see it all the time people not communicating well because they just want to hear what they want to hear and don't really listen to what people are saying. if you want to get a grip on who you are ask your parents or a friend if you have any they will be able to tell you who you are better than you can yourself.
2006-12-19 14:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by n4il_p0lish2000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go read some of Bruce Lee's teachings. He might be able to help you some.
2006-12-19 17:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋