How can I get my mom to let me wear heels, hoop earrings, and contacts?

Question

I don't know why she's so strict about these things. I'm a sophomore in high school and she says I'm too young for all those. I don't wanna wear spiked heels that would make me fall or anything, just normal ones. How can I get her to let me? thanks!

not the really big hoop earrings, just some small ones.

Answer 1

I don't know maybe just ask for a little at a time. When you throw it all out there like that it does sound like a lot and like you are trying to dress overly provacative or something. (this is how moms think). Maybe just ask her for some small hoops for christmas. Not big ones, just small hoops that don't even dangle from your ears. You could ask for 1 inch heeled shoes for your 16th birthday, etc. Maybe start off small and it won't be so hard for her to give in a little.

Answer 2

If she's the kind of mom that will listen, you should sit her down and talk to her about it. Tell her you feel like an outcast or something because you can't wear what all of the other girls at school are wearing. But I agree with Ella about he heels, try the contacts first. hoop earrings? no comment. When I was younger it took forever to talk my mom into letting me shave my legs, so I know how you feel. The reason she let me is because she asked my older half sister (her stepdaughter) her opinion on it and she told her I was old enough. So, maybe try something like that...

Answer 3

I'd say have a good sit down talk with her. Try to act grown up, mature, calm. She will respect you for that. I have younger girls, under 11, so I'd say no way with the heels, probably not with the hoop ear rings, sure why not with the contacts.


Good Luck

Answer 4

alrite, i went through this same thing, ive always been a little younger than people in my grades, because i started school a year early....your best bet is to sit down and talk to your mother...really TALK...not yell, fuss, whine...etc. start small... smaller hoop earrings, short heels....compromise is the strategy. you wont get anywhere if you go in and demand anything or you go behind her back. talk to her like a person, not like a mom.

if all else fails, go to another family member, maybe an older sister, an aunt or even grandma....they may be able to talk to your mom...and get her to bend a little. give it time. it wont happen overnight.

Answer 5

ok I basically appeared at your different inquiries to get an thought of ways previous you're because of the fact i haven't understood the flaws with mum and dad being strict approximately females donning rings(anybody I grew up with had their ears pierced as babies and wore hoops at each and every age as long as they weren't very great.) i think of your mom should be extra involved with you being on the information superhighway unsupervised, yet that's my opinion. be careful, there are alot of nuts on line. Watch Dateline NBC some Friday nights. She's basically demanding approximately you looking too grown up too quickly.

Answer 6

I think what you're meaning to ask is yourself this question, 'how can I understand why my mom won't allow me to do these things?' Have you even asked your mom why she made that decision against you wearing these things? Perhaps an understanding of where she is coming from, you will open up an understanding between the both of you where you could work out a compromise. Don't expect your mom to give in when you're not willing to meet her halfway. I doubt your mom is out to get you by not allowing these things, so try to see things from her POV (point-of-view) and ask her to see them from your POV, too.

And regardless of what she says, respect her wishes. Your mom loves you and your high school years are when she's going to want to protect you the most for obviously good reasons. Just let her and if you don't like it, you can rebel when you're feeding, clothing, and sheltering yourself. ;)

Good luck!!

Answer 7

If she doesn't want you to have these things, your mother certainly isn't going to buy them, so, if you really feel that you can't live without hoops, heels and contact lenses, make it clear that you are willing to get a job to show that you are responsible enough to choose your own accessories.

Answer 8

Before you ask, prove to her that you are responsible. Strive for good grades, positive remarks from teachers, etc. Find information to validate a positive response for what you are asking. Don't to anything irrational to rebel, if you prove to her you are ready she will eventually allow you to wear heels, earrings, and contacts.

Answer 9

maybe you can both give in a little, heels that are not too high and small hoops

Answer 10

what's wrong with hoop earrings? contacts? be happy to not be allowed to wear heels, they screw up your feet.
talk to her rationally, no screaming and pouting. how are your actions been? at any rate, it is her rules, and until you move out, you need to follow them. she's the parent, and i'm glad that she is doing it well.