2006-12-19 13:51:45 · 20 answers · asked by jamm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Time to cut the apron strings!
Growth is a process - you are not an "adult" in one day bc of a birthday. There is a transitional process and if you handle this graciously, you will be rewarded later with an appreciative son.
2006-12-19 14:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, I understand where your coming from, But I also see his side as well. He loves this girl, he cant help but want to spend every minute he can with her. How about a compromise? On Christmas Eve, Have your son come over and spend a few hours with you and the rest of the family and do any gift exchanges then, as well as have a small but nice dinner so he is included in your holiday as well. On Christmas morning, He can do a quick stop by the house to wish you all good bye. He wont be gone forever! Merry Christmas.
2006-12-19 13:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Danelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on his age remember that he is growing up. His girlfriend is someone special to him that he may have never spent a special occassion such as christmas with. I wouldnt take it to heart and remeber he is wanting to experience things on his own. I would think back on all the christmas's you have spent with him and i would just have christmas with him before he leaves or the day he gets back. Its not on what day that counts its remebering the love and you can love any day of the year.
2006-12-19 14:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the age of your son. If he is supporting himself, then he can make choices. It does not mean that he loves her more than he loves you. He could be experiencing her family and letting them get to know him. You can invite his girlfriend to come and spend the next holiday with your family.
2006-12-19 13:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by D S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the age of your son. If he is on his own then he can make that decision and you are going to have to give a little and let go. If he is still under your roof, you can set the rules, but be careful, you can alienate him. Is there anyway to compromise and they both spend one day with you and one day with her family?
2006-12-19 14:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's an adult, he is simply doing what adults do and that is living his life the way he wants to. I'm sure he will spend Christmas with you next year. We all have different situations and we have to compromise.
2006-12-19 13:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you compromise? Maybe he could spend Christmas Eve with her, and Christmas Day with your family...or vice versa! 3 hours isn't a terribly long drive....he could easily celebrate Christmas with both of you!!
2006-12-19 13:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is over the age of 16 you spend your christmas with him on christmas eve and on christmas day you let him do him
2006-12-19 13:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by sun4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on how old my son was.
If he was college age or younger it would bother me.
If he was older I would be sad but that's what happens when our children become adults.
He should make sure he spends some time with you during the Holidays
2006-12-19 13:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough one for a mother.
I guess it would depend on how long they had been seeing each other and how serious it is.
Maybe you could settle for Boxing Day or Christmas Eve?
2006-12-19 13:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by FoxyB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋