I have a younger sister who is 15yrs. Lately she has been getting on websites like myspace and different chatrooms and talking to people. She gives out her phone number and talks to these people without even knowing who they are. She has recently been caught getting phone calls from a 20 year old that she met on one of these websites. I tried explaining to her that a 20 year old should not want to 'chat' with a 15 year old but she doesn't understand the dangers.
2006-12-19 13:49:14 · 8 answers · asked by Heart 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
call the police, or school
Any 20yr. old that has an ongoing chat/phone "relationship" with a 15yr. old has a problem and will take advantage of your sister!!!!
Hurry, people like this tend to move in fast!
2006-12-19 13:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by ulu2011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why u r worried. There is a 20 yr old interested in a 15 yr old. Someone needs to know about this. Heh before anyone talks down on people meeting via the net. I believe it is somewhat safer on here than in a bar or club. There are a lot more freaks in the real world than on here. At least on the net a person can control who they chat with and when, without having them right there. I say these things because i know quite a few people that have met on the net and years later they are still together or married. The worry is why is this 20 yr old after a 15 yr old. At this age it is one thing. The ages are wrong in my eyes too. Tell your sister about the dangers of any man or woman on the net and public places. Tell her that he may have certain intentions that are not right. Tell your parents so they are aware of the situation and then can keep eyes open for other situations to come. Telling a counsellor doesn't do much.Eyes and ears are hardly around compared to family members.
2006-12-19 22:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok there are two ways of going about this problem:
A) Stamp out the guy completely through parents or otherwise (AKA almost all other suggestions on this board: I won't repeat them or take credit for them). I'd consider this option a last resort after trying B).
B) Convince your sister, girl to girl chatting, that any guy that age has nothing fun to offer she can not get for herself somehow. If she thinks it's cool to, for example, have access to transportation (through him) and isn't allowed to drive offer to drive her. Help her get in touch with kids her own age. If having these guy's attention makes her feel popular, let her know that will only make her less popular (and rather, for example, slutty) at school and the places that do matter and that he's probably saying that for show unlike people at school, who more likely mean it when they admire her.
Even tell her there are much better ways to feel the rush of "kissing in dark corners" without entering a potential illegal dating situation. Even if you talk to her about it and she's doing it in many ways just to rebel against strictness by her parents, give her other, healthier options for her rebellion.
I've seen a few questions on this site dealing with things like students having a crush on professors and most of them have to do with the student's feeling like they get a piece of their power or feeling the rush of a forbidden relationship.
Treat it like a business and give her the "better product" so she won't want him or anyone like him. And if she does not want them, she won't give out the dangerous confidential info, plain and simple.
2006-12-20 01:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by M S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents fast! If you've already tried talking to her... obviously its not enough. Your parents need to put a block on the websites or have a serious chat with her. Get a hold of a school counselor. Somehow get it through her head that its more serious than she realizes.
2006-12-19 22:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by jlo77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really dangerous but a lot of girls do it. If all her friends do then she might not be able to see why she can't. They go looking out there for attention. You might want to set some ground rules but keep in mind she can just go somewhere else to go online. Talk to her about how you feel and tell her that there are many young girls that have had really horible things happen to them. One in every four women is raped and those numbers are way to high. Good luck!
2006-12-19 21:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell ur parents or maybe block the websites form her.. there are real serious dangers out there on the internet...
2006-12-19 21:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by SyLviA! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe u should have a word with her ,n tell her tht this is not the age to starting dating n all tht .tell her tht she has got to focus on her studies rite now .
2006-12-19 21:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by (omplExity _|_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell momma before its too late
2006-12-19 21:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by babyphat luva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋