He had a fling with girl (who was cheating on her boyfriend, who she is still with - the boyfriend knows they flirted - which is not the whole story). I come into the picture. I tell him he has to choose. He says he chooses me. They decide to be plutonic. They are "still friends".
But he said to me (this is a while ago) "I will always be emotionally intimate with her"
Since then, their contact that I know about has slowed down, but there is still his phone and his work email.
But why would he still hang out with her? Should I be worried? Do you think something is up or am I overreacting about nothing?
Since then he told me he cares for me very much.
But he is also being particular about the costs of things when we go out - ie split 50/50 exactly, whereas he wasn't before. If I say I will pitch in for someone's birthday present who I barely know, he expected half from me. He did turn his head to the side when she tried to "hello" kiss him on the lips though.
2006-12-19 13:33:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anna K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is trying to move on from happenned and still be with you. but he has made himself a few promises first. he doesnt wnat to be your doormat, so you can walk all over him. he is standing up for himself and trying to teach you a leason bout who is in charge. he may be back with you but he hasnt forgotten. giv him time and his behaviour will return to normal.
2006-12-19 13:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's acting a little shady. A similar thing happened to me once, although, shamefully, I was the girl that you're worried about. He kept seeing me and trying to be sneaky about it. Eventually I realized that it was hurting his girlfriend and I decided to end it.
I would be really careful. The signs that he's makin you pay for stuff and he won't even kiss you....he's pulling apart. Maybe he's waiting for an excuse to end it, or is hoping that you get so fed up that you will. I think the only solution is to really sit down and talk to him about how you feel.
2006-12-19 21:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, i dont know the guy, but to me he seems like hes using you as a safety net, like sumone to fall back on cos him and the other girl havent worked out. You're seeing doubts, and its natural, hell i think everyone in that situation would be.
i'd be suspicious, he may be doing one of two things, one hes cheating and hes hiding it, or two, hes not and is making a genuine effort, ask him about it, tell him you're scared that your going to lose him to this other girl, and see how he reacts, comunication is key.
2006-12-19 21:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do women go out with these losers? for god's sake dumb the cheap , cheating idiot. find someone who is not going to treat you like a fool. When u have an affair with someone and you end it, you do not remain friends.
wake up, wise up. move on.
Good luck.
2006-12-19 21:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be fooled,he is emotionally attached to her,and it will be that way. You will be second rate in his life,and you might be the better person in the situation to just leave it.
2006-12-19 21:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope... i broke up with my girlfriend in september... i consider ourselves "emotionally intimate" but thats it... we r really good friends... but you can still build a relationship off that.
2006-12-19 21:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by ryanisalifestyle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the jerk
2006-12-19 21:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by onehelipainter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋