I take my daughter to a local playgroup and boy I tell you some of these moms are worse than a bunch of 7th grade girls. example: they are always on their high horse, acting like they are some kind of child experts, always commenting you aren't doing a good enough job raising your child, backstabbing, talking about one another behind their back, and overall making nasty comments about the other moms in our group.
2006-12-19 13:32:02 · 19 answers · asked by Foxtrot 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What should you do? Turn the other way. There are wonderful women out there who do not do this, but you have to search for them. Try another playgroup and keep trying until you find the one that fits you. No playgroup is going to be perfect, but you'll know when you've found one that works for you and your daughter. :) Good luck!
2006-12-19 14:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by LV2COOK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attending playgroups should not only beneficial to your daughter, but to you as well. Social activity with other moms can be a sanity saver.
If I were you I would try to organize my own, smaller playgroup with just a few other like minded moms. You might find another mom in your current group who feels the same way that you do and may appreciate another option. If that doesn't work just keep looking for another social activity for you and your daughter because you're not in a healthy environment. I was in the same position years ago and it led to depression because I got so down about being insulted and being treated so badly by other moms.
Good luck!
2006-12-20 05:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women can be bad, lol. Just don't get to close to any of them. You don't want to play that game, or if you do, just watch your back. Maybe see if there is one or two of them that aren't so bad. These are the type of groups you just listen more, and talk less, that way you don't present a target.
What should you do? I'd say, find another group, or get your daughter into a sport like indoor swimming, ballet, gymnastics, dance. Try to find a wide range of parents, sooner or later you'll come across a mom not so cliquey, lol
2006-12-19 20:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that the moms that talk behind people's backs are insecure themselves. Eventually, you will find a few moms that aren't like that. But I hate to tell you that it continues through the child's school years, and if you daughter is ever on a dance team, cheer team, etc...the moms get worse.
Trust your instincts, if you aren't comfortable with these people, and honestly, I wouldn't be...find another playgroup.
a friend told me that if the moms are like that, the kids will be listening to them, and also become like them
2006-12-19 13:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people act like 7th graders, I just keep try to keep to myself. If I am asked a question or somehow sucked into their conversation(s), I just tend to be myself. They can think I suck all they want, and talk crap behind my back, but I know they are all a bunch of two faced idiots and I just try to leave it at that. If you really can't stand it, bring along a friend and start your own "mom clique" and talk about everyone else. At least it will be entertaining :)
2006-12-19 13:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I am a young"ish" mom at my kids school. Everyone is older than me, and I'm 28. I say hold your head up high, and be better than them. It is a shame that its all about who you know and how in your kids schools now a days. If popularity is an issue for you, be bold and brave, but do it in a nice way. If your doctor hasn't said anything about the way your child is being raised, then I wouldn't worry about that. Good luck though.
2006-12-19 13:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by schleef42004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just consider the source, go right on raising your child in the style you wish and for the betterment of the child .... you and only you will give an account to God, no human, for how you did the job.
Do not sweat the small stuff just enjoy every moment you and the little one share for they are totally precious and far too short!
The time flys by in a hurry!
Merry Christmas to you and your family!!!
2006-12-19 13:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go to that playgroup anymore. You can't change these women's minds and how they think. Unfortunately, they were probably raised to believe that the sun did not rise until they woke up...spoiled in childhood and into adulthood. you are doing the very best you can sooo find some where else to hang out with your kid. And, these women "prissy pants" will pass down these ridiculous beliefs to their children. You can't change them so don't try!!!
2006-12-19 13:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds horrible. I would switch play groups or be a total loner. as long as the kids play and have fun who cares about those nasty women. Large groups of women together can be dangerous. I would find one or two moms I could hang with and forget the rest. Good luck.
2006-12-19 13:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ella727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a lot like Yahoo answers! LOL. Unfortunately, that's the way some people are. They feel the need to put others down to make themselves feel better. They are very insecure and show little to no class. Just be thankful that you have dignity and take comfort in knowing that you are doing the best for your children.
2006-12-19 13:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋