Ok, my really cute neighbor who i've been practically in love with since I've moved to Georgia is putting me through a lot right now. He's always confused me, but it started out as just flirting w. me all, the time, but now: it's like every time I'm around him, I end up in an inappropriate situation. Like, he'll massage my breasts, and kiss them and stuff , and I know it's wrong, and I shouldn't let him do it, but it's so hard to say no cause I love him. as a friend and as more) So, what do i do? And what does this mean? Does it mean he likes me? Or is he just using me? I can I gain his respest? i can i make him like me if he doesn't already? And is playing hard to get hot? HELP!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-19 13:21:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To put it bluntly -- if he was actually interested in you as a potential mate - - then he would RESPECT you and not USE you (which, sadly -- you are being USED just for sexual contact).
2006-12-19 13:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Please go to Barnes and Noble and spend 30minutes at the cafe reading "He's Just Not That Into You". It will save your life. Sure he has feelings. When you become intimate with someone its hard not to. Especially with orgasm, which produces chemicals in the brain to create attachment. Why is it like this? He's told you. He doesn't want a serious relationship and its already obvious you're wanting more (if not just wanting more, its either want more or nothing at all so you dont' get attached one-sidedly). But be honest, you don't want nothing at all... and neither does he... because while convinent sex isn't as good as sex in a committed loving relationship... its better than no sex at all. I really recommend you just scan through that book. Its really helpful. Its not big. And I swear I don't work for the company. I've read it and I really just recommend it. Good luck.
2016-05-22 22:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship should start as friends,you need to communicate more than you are.I feel he just wants to ride the pony and thusfar you have let him,you need to love yourself before you can love another.He has no respect for you because you have gone too far with him.Please respect yourself enough to start slow and work into good friends before anything happens.
It's too late with this guy though,If you want the real truth just go all the way a few times and see where it goes from there.Hope it doesn't hurt,a heartache is very painful and can only be learned the hard way.Good Luck.
2006-12-19 13:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by harleyman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's using you, and you'll never get him to respect you. If he respected you, he wouldn't be using you, would he? I think you give in to him so easily because you are lonely and maybe a little sad too. Please put yourself first by staying away from him. Is playing hard to get hot? No. Playing hard to get is playing a game. Why would you even consider that? You might have some self-esteem issues too. Nothing good will ever come of this relationship, so the sooner you end it the better.
2006-12-19 13:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
How old are you? If you know it is wrong, listen to yourself. You don't need HIM to respect you, YOU need to respect you. He is just doing what you allow. Don't go around him by yourself, and make up your mind to stick to it. If you need help, tell a friend or an adult!!! The more inappropriate it gets, the sooner you are going to realize it is too late to stop and you are going to be in a situation you don't have any idea how to handle. Stop that situation before it happens
2006-12-19 13:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by seven2ndstofire 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's just having a little fun, because you are allowing it...stop allowing him liberties unless you don't mind having a casual relationship with him...if you truly hope for more, stop the sex play and get serious...why should he respect you if you're going to let him fool around with you, but require nothing in return? Sounds like you're panting after him like a dog in heat...
...you want respect, you're going to have to earn it...no more touching the goodies until he's shown he's earned the honor of sharing your body...
2006-12-19 13:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe he likes you as a girlfriend, but at the same time you are making it too easy for him. don't have him touching you unless he let you know exactly what he wants from you. like friendship or a girlfriend or whatever. as long as you can handle his answer then go for it but don't make him play you in the mean time
2006-12-19 13:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like mutual abuse to me. The two of your are using each other for your own personal interests. If you want his respect, you are going to have to stand up to him let him know what you like and don't like him doing with you. Us guys are pretty ignorant sometimes especially when we get to have our way with you girls.
2006-12-19 13:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Chris H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is about to use you...quite frankly, I am old fashioned, but if he is fondling you and not calling you girlfriend, thats a problem...you sound like you are way to into him and he can probably sense that and is going to get what he can out of you...
2006-12-19 13:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
neighbor in georgia ? I assume he is your uncle or something .. o well ... just give up the baloon knot cause even rednecks know you cant have no kids from the butt
2006-12-19 13:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by phooey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋