my bf and i have been together for 5yrs and living with each other for 2yrs.he always seems to be bitter towords me.for example when i got a well deserved raise at work instead of being happy for me he was almost jealous.whenever anything good happens to me he never seems to care.he also does not care that his exwife talkes badly about me to everyone we know.its not like hes depressed he gets excited to do things with his son,dad,and even friends but when we do anything its like he just wants to get it over with.he never comes home and wants to do anything with me i am the one that always has to bring something up.our datting started with me going over to his place to watch dvds. thats been the highlight except for a few trips that i had to plan completely and had to talk him into.I allways think i'm asking for to much thats why i stay.can you men out there tell me why a man would would want to stay with someone he did not love? we do NOT have children together and its not for sex.
2006-12-19 13:08:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
were both in our mid 30s
2006-12-19 13:08:42 · update #1
I am not a man, but felt the need to ask: "Why would a woman stay with a man for 5 years if he treated her like crap?"
2006-12-19 13:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called the comfort zone.
But really, do you want to stay with someone that doesn't even seem to like you?
When a guy has an ex that is baggage allready accumulated.
You sound like you could make it on your own. If the place is in your name just kick him out after Christmas. But if its his place just look into renting a truck and get your stuff out of there when he is at work. Make it a clean break.
2006-12-19 13:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
often times it particularly is barely much less difficult to stay in a relationship then to end it and take a verify out to start yet lower back. It appears like your boyfriend is in a convenience zone which you're assembly all of his desires and you in turn are receiving no longer something. with out some style of mutuality a relationship turns into painful for the guy troubled by using this imbalance of ability. you're a youthful lady who sounds noticeably intelligent and worrying and you need to extremely no longer ought to get thrown some scraps now and then by using a guy who's interested in no person yet himself. After 5 years you isn't waiting to alter his selfcentredness, yet I experience from you question which you're already attentive to that and are in all possibility purely searching for some distant reason you could opt to stay. you will in all possibility purely see many examples confirming your individual thoughts of helplessness over this occasion. Your boyfriend is petty and you recognize which you deserve so plenty greater suited. Why no longer provide your self a spectacular present this year of letting pass of this unhappy relationship and locate the guy which will take exhilaration in you and make your heart dance. I choose you each and every of the superb in regardless of you go with for. stable success and God bless.
2016-10-18 12:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 - penis envy - when you're successful, it shoves it in his face what a loser he is - the truth hurts.
2 - it IS for the sex on his part - he gets it for free from you, and does have to pay for it or make the effort to go looking for it with you around. he doesn't even have to make the effort to take you out for supper.
3 - the income you provide him with so he doesn't have to get off his fat *** and pay his bills by himself.
4 - a free maid to clean the house and pick up the beer cans his buddies left laying around after the footy.
dump the moron and get a man who values you - there are lots out there. i'm sure his ex wife would applaud you for seeing the light.
2006-12-19 13:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is why are YOU staying with HIM?
Find someone who loves and cares about you, do not stay in this relationship. get out while u can, you do not have any legal ties yet and no kids. Do not sell yourself short and it looks like you are totally miserable. Dump him and move on!
2006-12-19 13:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely he's afraid of being alone. No offense my dads the same way.. hes marrying a lady he doesn't even really like just afraid of being on his own. I say if he doesn't change kick him to the curb because I've seen that **** for a long time and it really bothers me that a guy treats a woman like that.
2006-12-19 13:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what that is the worst thing for you to do. Because you is with someone that you don't want to be with. I think that you and that person need to set down and talk. Because you never know that person could be feeling the same way.
2006-12-19 13:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first, you have to look at yourself - are you happy with him, does he make you want to be with him, does he put you first as you seem to him? It seems like he doesn't have happiness in himself for you - are you more succsessful than he is? Do you make more money?
My thoughts (as a man who has been in several relationships) is that he knows he will never do better in finding a woman that will do everything for him but he is intimidated by your outgoing and giving nature and feels self-loathing for his inability to reciprocate. Short of couceling, this is not a healthy relationship for you.
2006-12-19 13:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats because you're letting him. dontbe an idiot. wake up and leave him. he reason he's with you is because he's already used to the fact of having someone like you he can dump all his negativity on and you're letting him. pack up and leave asap before you get old and grumpy with no life. he just want to keep you there because he's afraid that if he left you, he probably won't someone else at his age. i say: dump him, get pretty and enjoy your life.
2006-12-19 13:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by amy_s03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is just comfortable. And he probably takes you for granted. Do you like him? Is he ever nice to you? What do you see in hiim? Why can't you move on? He is using you for something...money? sex? convience? maid? cook? I would leave him.
2006-12-19 13:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by greeneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋