Neighbour Problems?

Question

He and his wife are contstantly hiding behind there net curtains and staring at me and my house mate when we leave / enter my house, wash the car, even sunbathe in the garden.
I have caught his wife leaning over the fence trying to look into my house and he has even pretended to mow his lawn (it was not plugged in) when I held a barbacue.
We both work long hours and have found that he is parking his car in between both houses so I cannot park my car unless it is away from the house or blocking my drive which creates problems for my house mate. Please note he has a drive and only one car.
It started when he complained about my alarm clock going off at 7am. I was not rude but told him I needed it to go off at that time for work, its genreal household noise and that there was nothing I could do. I really hate this bloke and would love to punch the old B'stard but I know he would involve the Police to his satisfaction. Anyone got any ideas on how to sort this old sod out?

My house mate is female and this guy give her the creeps.

Answer 1

Remain calm and await your chance. Make sure you have a friend or someone to witness with you when you casually discuss the whole matter with him/them. Ask him or her why they are so interested in you and your girlfriend and just tell them politely, that you have had enough and if it does not stop you will inform the police!

Do not..under any circumstances let them provoke you to lose your temper, but remain polite, and resolute!

Good luck, I know where you are coming from. We have just got rid of four tenants in our house of 8. You need patience, alot of it. It depends on whether you really wish to remain in your flat, if it is worth it then good luck.

Some people have frustrated, empty lives and have nothing better to do than make other peoples' lives difficult. The normal reason is envy, but then again racism and gangstalking is increasing at an alarming rate.

Don't let anyone push you around or they will walk all over you!

Answer 2

First rule: stay always the right side of the law. It will be essential if this ever gets serious.

That means, for example, that you get to set your alarm clock for 7am. He can get stuffed over that one.

But also, he gets to park where he likes in a public road as long as he's not causing an obstruction. The law sets minimum standards, it doesn't require people not to be ássholes.

Second rule, if this is really serious, start a log book, and record in it diligently. This will be your evidence when you need it.

After that, I would say live your life your way, don't be intimidated, but don't do what you really feel like doing. If you have to make a complaint (e.g. about the creepy stalker behaviour) make it specific and use the evidence you have gathered. Always be in the right.

Answer 3

get a wheel clamp and apply on his car if any apart of his car crosses on to your property, you are legally entitled to, then charge him for the release of his car. This would a good negotiating position to be in to sort out your problems with him. But knowing the type prob not. At least you will have the satisfaction that u got some money from him. Warn him that you will do this and it is a criminal offence to damage your clamp in any way
I know drastic action but just take some strong action, as these sort of people need sorting out

Answer 4

Ben Hello.

Move the alarm clock away from the wall and put it on the floor under your bed so it only wakes you up. Then when you see the curtain twitch wave and smile a friendly hello. When they look over the fence call out 'Hello lovely day, how are you?' Also send them a Christmas card today, wishing them a merry Christmas. Don't be the horrible one, otherwise you will just get more and more wound up.

Answer 5

Give them a cheery smile and wave to their curtains, shout good morning, wave to their nets, keep the music loud enough to drown out the noisy lawnmower. If your drive is blocked again call the police show you have no hesitation in reporting his illegality's. Tell the oldcnt the local authorities and police have been given statements on their actions (that concern you) Get a few dummy CCTV cameras permanently pointing to them at any point in you area, security to ensure any neighbours that can`t be told to fk of. If he has a garden in spring throw boxes of grass seed all over in beginning of June throw granules of (phosphate) grass feed over his garden monthly, and he`ll be cutting grass every other day

Answer 6

Oh yes i have some like that. Park in front of his drive all the time, he only has access off as far as I understand. Tell him you will not park there if he parks on his drive, but as he keeps parking in your area it means you have to block his access. Whenever they look out of the window, wave and say hello. If they are doing something just to see what you are doing, say hey if you want to take a look come on over. Be loud to embaress them. set your alarm even on the days you dont work. Most important, make sure you let them known that these things are happening for the reasons you said and will get worse or better depending on what they do next. think of all the little things you can do to annoy them that are within the law, parties, fires etc

Answer 7

Built a taller fence, it can be a bit expensive, but there are some plastic-and-net fences that are cheap. Also, put a fence around your parking space, with an entrance, kind of a garage, so that he cannot park in there. After you do this, buy 100 alarm clocks and put them all at 7am, place them near the windows facing his house, this will annoy him!

Answer 8

Almost everywhere I've ever lived I've had the elderly, busy-body, neighbors next door. I don't know what it is....

I actually got kind of used to the lady who used to sit and watch the comings and going out her window (she actually had a chair right under window, so she could be comfortable; and she'd watch outside rather than watch television I guess).

My husband and I would kind of joke about it, and we weren't thrilled. Around Christmas time, though, she called and asked me to bring my kids in. She had made them Christmas ornaments and set out cookies and juice for them and coffee for me. I was expecting my daughter at that time, and she said her husband said to tell me if I needed someone to get the dog in when it was icey out just call him. It turned out this busy-body lady was the nicest lady - and I just kind of came to accept that she was in her window with her arm on the sill whenever I came in or out of the house.

Over the weeks following the Christmas cookie event she kept checking in from time to time; so when my daughter was born I wanted to make sure she knew I had had a girl. As we headed home from the hospital I got the pink blanket out because I knew all I could count on her to be in her window; and all I had to do was the wave the pink blanket so she could see it through the snow that was falling.

From my experiences with elderly, busy-body, neighbors I've learned they have little to do (and apparently nosiness must set in at some point for some people). They don't really mean any harm with it, though, so I've come to kind of see the humor in the nosy neighbor (even the somewhat crotchety one).

Life is short. Put up some kind of tall fence piece or screen to give yourself a part of the yard that offers some privacy, keep your window curtains closed on that side of the house, and overlook the other stuff.

If they're a little on the nutty-ish side you have to overlook them. If they're just busy-bodies you have to see the humor in it. I think everyone ought to have the experience of the busy-body neighbors at one time or another. It builds perspective and character.

Who knows - maybe they'll have you in for Christmas cookies and juice some day.

Better still, why not let bygones (and weirdness) be bygones and pick up a small pointsettia and a little thing of Christmas candy and run it over some time soon. You don't have to be best friends - just a little friendlier.

Answer 9

You could confront him (nicely) and ask him why he seems to be so interested in you. There also may be something about blocking your right to access your home. You could talk to the police about this. It is against the law here to block someone's coming and going.

Also, the next time you see them looking into your house you could get your camera ready and photo fix it. That might be a Kodak moment the police would be interested in, too.

First, I would try to ascertain why he is so upset with you If you cannot resolve this amicably, it might be time to talk to the authorities about it.

Good luck to you.

Answer 10

Try winning them around with the nice approach. Take a Christmas card to them and keep smiling. Introduce your housemate as well. They may be lonely and want to get to know you. I'm hot headed and would want to punch him but over the years I have learnt that you can do more by being nice (even if you don't mean it)