question...kinda weird?

Question

This seems complicated to me, but I have trust issues, what I think is due to being hurt by someone I trusted a couple of years ago. I always wanted to be with the young adults because I felt more comfortable around them. Now I still remember that one person that mentally hurt me I cant forget. But now the 1-2 young adult persons I do trust I don't want to leave I'd rather just stay and talk to them. I know they don't always mind and they do have jobs but I always feel in the way and I hate that. I keep finding myself by their office (at school) just sitting there and not always knowing what to say. I am scared of being left or hurt again and so I dont want to leave the persons I do trust. I don't talk to my parents much. And don't like to turn to them for answers to things. What should I do? Just keep doing what I am even if I don't realize what is wrong or what I am doing...if that makes sense. Serious comments needed. I dont need people telling me im weird or who I am. Thanks

Answer 1

I know this sounds wierd, but I know exactly what you're going through. I've been through it before too and I'm still here so I know you can get through it too. I don't know much of the situation you are in so I'm not sure how much I can help, but let me do my best to say what helped me, ok?

I've always had trust issues too, not as much when I was very little but as I got older they just got worse. The same thing you described happened to me too, but it didn't stop there. I got pretty down and didn't know what to do, and then random guys started hitting on me. It freaked me out a little because I was so young, but it started to bring my self esteem down too. I tried to talk to my friends about it because I didn't and don't really talk to my parents and they just said that if it were them thier self esteem would be boosted instead of crushed. I guess they just didn't understand what was happening. Adults didn't care, my friends didn't care, and my parents didn't notice. So I pretty much gave up on life. I self injured a little, did some other stuff that probably didn't make things better, although so far none of it has caught up with me either. I found a few people I felt like I could trust, but I didn't talk with them or anything because I didn't know what to say, but know I really wish I had. At the beggining of this school year I found a few more people I trusted and I also met a few seniors in my high school that have helped too. The adults don't even know about any of this but they're always there to talk to about the little things. As for the seniors, I didn't really think that I could trust guys again but now I do. One of them reached out to me durring my very first week and we've been friends since. It turns out that he had the same problems too and that it worked out for him the same way that it worked out for me and the same way I think it can work out for you. You just have to stick with it until you can find a way out. That's the only thing you CAN do. Talk to those people you trust. If they work at your school then I assume they are trustable enough so you shouldn't have to worry about telling them too much. Then just try to find more people who you can trust. Don't force yourself into it because you will just get hurt again but don't be afraid to make these trusting relationships. Eventually it will start to work out, I promise. It will probably take some time, and definately take some work but you'll make it through. If you're afraid that these people are finding you clingy just explain that you have trouble finding people to trust and that you trust them now. Explain that you are doing your best to find other people to turn to and that you are aware that it may seem wierd or something but that you need someone and you are asking for their help to get through. I'm running out of things to say. I hope this helped a little if at all. Good luck, just keep on going, you'll make it through.

Answer 2

I don't know if your school offers a social worker's help, but you could ask if you desire counseling. Mine does, and tons of students seek help from the counselor/social worker.

The best I can tell you to do is communicate with the people you do trust and tell them exactly how you feel. They can either make more time for you or lead you to other, possibly better friendships.

I hate to say it, but you're gonna have to learn to mold your perspective of people into a more optimistic one. I don't think anyone on this earth is 100% trustworthy, but if you won't give anyone the time of day for fear of getting emotionally hurt, then there's something wrong with that picture. Understand that pain comes and goes all throughout life and avoiding it won't help the situation. What will help is learning how to combat and battle whatever problem needs to be fixed.

It's simply a matter of moving on. =)

Answer 3

One thing you should do, is seek some sort of councelling for your trust issues. There is nothing wrong with having a select few freinds, but if you wish to clear up these issues, you need to seek help in doing so. These trust issues will always haunt you until you find a way to deal with them in a safe environment, and be able to move on with your life freely. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I do not have enough information to tell you everything. But just from the little information that I see, it could be Paranoid personality disorder. I know that sounds scary but what I would suggest that you do if you don't want to talk to your parents right away is to talk to the school counselor and see what they can come up with for you because if it is PPD then you do need treatment to make you feel like a person again.

Good luck.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I'll make it short and sweet. The only thing one has to fear is fear itself. Also, you must trust yourself and your own judgement before you can trust others.

Answer 7

IT YOUR LIFE AND ONE DAY YOU WILL TO TAKE BY IT NUTS AND LIVE IT NOW HOW DO YOU WANT TO LIVE IT LIKE YOU ARE
MAKE IT BETTER ONE ONE WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER BUT YOU