My boyfriend says that he wants us to be friends because it will be less complicated. He says a part of him does want to break up but a bigger part doesn't. He won't answer my calls now because he says he needs time we have been together 4 months on CHristmas and i don't want it to end now. Can somebody give me a clue what to tell him to convince him. or maybe how i should handle this.
2006-12-19 12:39:19 · 6 answers · asked by Sherry Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hun, he has dumped you. maybe he's cheap and doesn't want to spend his money buying you a christmas present (i know someone who does this to his g/fs regularly). move on. if he tries to "make up' with you after christmas again (or in my opinion any other time), tell him where he can go and whistle "noel" from.
2006-12-19 12:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "convince" him of anything. If he wants to initiate contact, he will.
You need to acknowledge that this thing is probably over. I'd back off of calling him and see if he calls you. In the meantime, get busy! Get active, the holidays are here so keep busy and try not to think about him. If you get the urge to call him, call a friend instead, or go to the gym and work out, or put your cell phone away.
Sorry, but this thing doesn't sound good. Sounds like he wanted out. I'd move on. You should also realize that a guy who doesn't really know what he wants is not worth keeping. His statements sound confused: "Part of me wants to leave, part of me doesn't." Where is that supposed to leave you?! If he's ambivalent, he doesn't deserve what he has.
So move on, try not to think about him, and keep busy.
2006-12-19 12:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you don't have a lot of choice, trying to be friends is brutally difficult, assuming you love him. I've had absolutely no choice be to be around my two exes. It's been brutal.
I would try to make a clean break. Make sure you let him know it's either on or off. He can't have it both ways. Tell him you need clarity about the situation. Not knowing will causing you a lot of pain.
2006-12-19 12:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him the time he needs, if you keep bugging him he'll think your a stalker, put it this way, how can he ever miss you if you won't go away?
If he doesn't come around soon, let him go completely and find another guy that want's to hear from you.
Good luck, i know it's hard.
2006-12-19 12:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he says that he wants some time to think about it then let him. I think he'll come around, and if not there are other fish in the sea.
2006-12-19 12:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Katerina Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why does he want to break up to begin with?
he's playing with ur feelings, u need to just keep ur distance although i know it will be painful but u need to clear ur head and he needs to do the same...so give it time and relax...if it was meant to be you'll work it out...
2006-12-19 12:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by prchik 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋