he is sending me many emails and already bought me christmas gifts (many) probably over well over $100.00. We had a great time on our first date on friday ( we went out to dinner) and he is acting like he is in love with me already! too much too soon? i asked him to please slow down. Any other hints? He is nice ..but this is taking me to the scary place!!!???!!!
We talked through emails for a little over a month before I went out to dinner with him.
2006-12-19 12:09:33 · 18 answers · asked by Girl with Kaleidoscope Eyes 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its to bad but that is quite common maybe more than one would think. He is probably a real nice guy lonely and desperate for your company and attention. He will probably meet two kinds of women, someone who will lead him along and someone like yourself who sounds nice and honest. Honest is the key word here, you must in my opinion make it know in no uncertain terms you are not comfortable, and that you would like to keep it friendly but with a bit of space, and if that does not work you should know the answer yourself.
Take care Mike
2006-12-19 12:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by canoratrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After one date all that's required are occasional phone calls and maybe some emails. Maybe, instead of taking the round about way and asking him to slow down, you need to be more direct.
Tell him that you really do think he's nice and that you like to try a second date with him (only if that's true) but, that you're really not comfortable with him spending so much money on you/showering you with so much affection.
He sounds like he could be a nice guy but, just needs some help with dating 101. Its like hes doing all this in an attempt to keep you, maybe he's not so confident so letting him down in a nice way will help things.
2006-12-19 12:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is way too soon to be feeling the type of feelings that he is obviously feeling...ESPECIALLY when you guys met over the net, only had one date and now he is in love or wants to take things further? Gosh, he (and you) barely know one another, slow it down and give it time.....
My advice is that the guy is seeming to be rushing, he only wants your panties, not only that, this guy seems to be desperate. He seems as if he hasnt had a date or relationship in a while so he is moving at this fast rate because maybe he thinks this is the right thing to do but it isnt....
If you are telling him to slow down and he refuses to listen then that could spell trouble and I would take care of it before things get out of hand.....
2006-12-19 12:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to talk with him and ask him to slow down a little. How much do you truly know about him? Sometimes things aren't what they seem to be. I believe that if you feel that something just isn't right, then it probably isn't. Tell him you need time to get to know him. Remember how easy it is to trust someone --you always want to believe that someone showing you love and affection is genuine. But.. sometimes dating someone from the Internet can be very dangerous. Be careful, and do a little investigating. Lots of luck
2006-12-19 12:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked him to slow down, hopefully he'll listen to you. If not you might want to lessen the frequency of your emails and talks so that he gets the hint. Sounds like you have a stage 5 clinger haha. Good luck. Hope he stops acting so desperate.
2006-12-19 12:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with the flow. Youve already told him to slow down, hopefully he will get the picture. if hes not that experienced he thinks he is just trying to flatter you, but it comes off as a bit obsessive. Just give him some time if youre up for it, if not, get out of the relationship before it gets any more serious.
2006-12-19 12:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by idbangrobertplant 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obvioulsy not your first choice but he is excited and intersted which is good.
If he really likes you he will back off and slow down per your request.
The big question is? How do you feel about him? From the looks of things and your tone he's headed for the friend zone. Hope he likes it there.
2006-12-19 12:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have been friends for only a little while...
either this guy is a stalker and an obssessive, or a really honest person who wears his heart on his sleeve and thinks you're the best thing to enter his life.
ask him nicely but VERY directly that you need to get to know him slowly, that you do not want to have gifts bought for you at this stage, but prefer to be charmed by his personality and to rather spend his money better by taking you out for meals / outings where you can get to know each other better.
if he refuses, dump him like a pile of hot bricks.
if he agrees, enjoy getting to know him.
2006-12-19 12:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be upfront with him tell him that you feel things are moving too fast,don't accept the gifts unless he understands that,look if you don't tell him upfront then things could very well take you right into the scary place.he may get mad and call you a few select names but its all good just let it go and move on.or he may be cool with the whole thing and realize that he is going to fast witch will work to your benefit.honesty is the key to a successful relationship from the start. good luck
2006-12-19 12:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by imalwayswatchin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he nonetheless save's searching on personal then he's not confident a courting will initiate with you. possibly try one extra date and ask some severe question and is he has a courting then he would favor to seem for yet another women human beings. and if he kept searching then u would understand to go away
2016-11-30 23:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋