I am 22 years old and I have only been with one guy. I was with him for 7 years and never had thoughts of being with another man in that way before...well things have changed we obviously are no longer together and I fear that when I get ready to be with someone else I may come accross as inexperiencend or a prude, when the truth is I'm not but I may shut down. is this normal/how should I react?
2006-12-19 12:07:08 · 6 answers · asked by violet83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From personal experience, if you're in love (with the next person) and things develop to the point where you want to be with him 'in that way' -- it would be FANTASTIC and you wouldn't even THINK about your previous experience, because you will be completely wrapped up in the new love of your life. (Or so you should be!)
Just let go - revel in your feelings and experience the moment as if nothing else existed before and nothing else will exist after...
Love the experience, love yourself, love your lover, forget the past.
"Experience" has nothing to do with how MANY TIMES you've done it. It is all about HOW MUCH you make EACH experience count.
To illustrate: someone who is 'prudish' in their approach on day one can remain 'prudish' for the rest of their lives, even after 35,453,223 times.
However - someone with a passion, a zest and enthusiasm, who acts on their love for someone, can be absolutely, mind-boggingly wonderful on day 1.
2006-12-19 12:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by Biker B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, don't do anyone till you are ready. I wouldn't recommend a one night stand for your 2nd man either. Casual, non committal but multiple occasion s3x is probably best here. Third date rule is in effect. Look, you don't need to keep the next guy around for 9 years. Get yourself a few samples, see what's out there. If you get a guy who's tiny or awful or you do something embarrassing, you don't ever have to see him again. Don't say anything about how many guys you haven't been with. Find a man who, from the beginning, you know he's not one you're going to keep, and you should do great. Main thing though, don't worry so much, it's always a little awkward at first, but it helps if the guy is confident... he will "direct" you. Good luck!
2006-12-19 20:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with the same guy for 5 years and after we split i felt the same way. give yourself time before you start seeing anybody else, and when you feel ready don't jump into a serious relationship. this is the time when you learn about you. when figure that out then try a new relationship.
2006-12-19 20:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After such a close relationship for so long, it would make sense to take it slow with the next guy. Any guy in a hurry to jump in the sack will not be your kind of guy. You are a long term person and need to seek those who share that value.
2006-12-19 20:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by TruBlevr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have been with someone for so long it will feel strange to be with someone else but you get over it, get to know the other person before you jump into anything take your time, don't be rushed by anyone, just be your self.
2006-12-19 20:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch some erotic films to get ideas. Make sure you choose your next partner after you get to know them well and are comfortable enough and relaxed, it will be OK, don't worry.
Good Luck
2006-12-19 20:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋