2006-12-19 11:37:41 · 13 answers · asked by Jay L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When you are in a healthy relationship, have a secure job, money saved and a place to bring them home to. You also have to be mature enough to put that child first over yourself for the rest of that child's life......
2006-12-19 11:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you're married and have been for a couple of years and know that there is a strong chance you two will stay together. Make sure you don't have kids to strenghten a weak relationship. IT WILL NOT WORK! It only strengthens a strong relationship and will destroy a weak one (with innocent collateral damage).
You also must feel relatively secure in your career and have already discussed issues of discilpine. I, for example, would not have done well if my husband believed in hitting our children for discipline. That would have been a deal breaker for me and those are things to decide BEFORE the kids are born.
The fact that you're asking this question shows a strong conscience and a desire to do the right things in regard to having children. That's a great start and a very promising sign. I have a feeling your kids will be in good hands.
2006-12-19 19:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't. My husband and I talked about it a lot. When I thought I was finally ready I still had doubts. My husband had major doubts. Then one day he said to me, "I'll never get to a point where I'm just 100% ready to have a child." I agreed with him. I knew I wouldn't either. We also knew that if we kept putting it off until things were just perfect then it would never happen. So, we just decided to start trying and see what happened. We're now expecting number three. With each decision to get pregnant we were never 100%. Don't get me wrong, we knew we WANTED kids, we just never knew if and when we'd be ready for each one. You just either do it or you don't. This may not be the same for everyone, but if we had waited until we felt really ready, we'd never have had any.
2006-12-19 19:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by Amelia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, ensure that you are financially stable with a responsible partner to share the load and a good home to provide the child. Next, please do all the things that you want to do before you embark on parenthood journey. For example, certain courses or classes or even hobby that you've longed to do but have been putting it at the back of your mind.
I did my degree when I was laden with my 2nd kid...... It was really tough.... I now have to wait till the children are off to school before I can start doing the things that I want to do further as juggling both work, family and leisure is a lot of hard work.......
Good Luck!!
2006-12-19 20:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by syain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the person. If you are trying to get ready saying ohh we will wait until we have this or that or more money you will never get to that point. My hubby and I were married 5 years and got to a point that we realized we were done being selfish and living for just us (i.e. going out drinking, clubbing etc.) we were ready to give our lives to a little one. So that was when we were ready. Even then your never ready as you think you are!!!
2006-12-19 19:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We knew we measured up to all the requirements financially and emotionally but sometimes you don't know it until you hold that baby in your arms. My wife was in labor and I still didn't feel ready, but as soon as I saw my baby I knew that my purpose in life was to be a dad. We have two chilldren now and they are the most important things in the world to me.
2006-12-19 22:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Chris T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are ready when you KNOW it (just ilke you KNOW you found the right person). Some people never seem to ever be "ready", but all the signs point to yes, they are just afraid.
2006-12-19 19:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when your ready... unless its unexpected, then you will LEARN to be ready, and even then I am sure you will do fine. Good Luck
2006-12-19 21:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by eric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wanted kids when i was about 18 - i started jsut wanting to be a dad so badly,i was jelious of every single dad out their. it was a bit werid for someone of my age to want kids i know but i couldnt help it, i thought only women got the urge for babys but i wanted one badly!, few years later i had one!
2006-12-19 19:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I knew I was ready when my GF told me she was pregnant.
2006-12-19 19:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋