He steals money from family members in the household, lies to me, and has a real problem with authority.
2006-12-19 11:33:51 · 14 answers · asked by nashiii@sbcglobal.net 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If he's doing it all the time, daily, or even once a week, and you've tried talking, counseling, taking away priviledges, and nothing is working, then I would suggest the same as other members here... call the police. It's going to be VERY hard to do, but, doing nothing isn't helping him. My stepson has stolen alot of things from alot of people, most recently me and my husband. He was given a chance to come clean and he didn't. My husband picked up the phone and started dialing the police station, and he fessed up. We told him next time, it's for real,and we will press charges. He's 16 and old enough to know better. Unfortunatley, military school/private school costs so much we can't afford to send him there. So, we have to rely on our best judgement in the consequences to his actions.
I say if he's chronic and you've tried about everything you can think of, it's time to get seriously tough on his butt. Don't back down. He's disrespecting you and your home. Not acceptable. If he's big enough to commit an adult crime, then he's big enough to take the consequences. You can talk until you're blue in the face, some kids just don't get it until they are tossed into juvie. Sorry to say, this isn't going to be easy to get control of. But you have to start by letting him know you're not fooling around.
2006-12-19 13:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Momof4boys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents would have kicked my ***. but I suppose thats not really accepted nowadays. So..
I would say he needs serious help from a shrink or if you know a lawyer have them tell your teen what kind of trouble he will get in if charges are ever brought up on him.
You may also try putting him into a religious school I know a family who had a 14 year old and he was not doing well in school and had experimented with pot but after being in a strict religious environment for a few months he turned around completely now he has bible verses memorized is very respectful and said last week:"Ya know people say my kid is good he just fell in with the wrong kids but ya know what I was the wrong kid and my school's pastor helped me realize that!"
A major difference!!
Good Luck
2006-12-19 12:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by what? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put locks on all the doors. Set firm rules, and he if he fails to follow them, take away privaleges (like money for the movies, or a ride to the mall, etc.). Later, maybe you and the boy can start negotiating house rules. This will teach him how to respect others and authority, by being respected and earning some authority.
2006-12-19 11:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by patrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by taking privileges away...nothing drives a lesson home like facing consequences either. If he steals, call the police and have them put a good scare into him.
2006-12-19 11:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
man, what a douche >:( yeah, i got a sis that steals. drives me crazy. but hey man, coodos for still loving that son of a ***** i would have deleted his number long ago. i would tell him that if he steals one more thing from ANYONE not just you, that you'll personally drag his *** to jail and dis-own his name from the family forever! (i know it's not that easy but it'll probably knock some sense into him) and that's the last straw. anymore and you just don't have anything to do with him, you've washed your hands clean. it might hurt your heart, but trust me, your wallet will be a lot more comfortable.
2016-05-22 22:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's he doing with the money? He needs guidance, a role model. Something tells me he doesn't have a father present in his life. Get him to counseling.
2006-12-19 11:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make certain that he pays the consequences for misbehavior. If you can't, you need to get him to a place that will. There are homes to which such kids can be sent for a time. He needs help--a lot of it.
2006-12-19 11:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not too be cruel have you tried calling big brother big sister of America. the number in pa is (814) 944 6129
i hope that will help you out. tell them where you live and they will give you something too go by.
good-luck.
2006-12-19 14:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by RENEE B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap him up side the head if hes stealing from his own family hes got something wrong with him
2006-12-19 11:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by wookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to juvenile authorities. they'll straighten him out. If you don't get a grip on this now, he'll end up spending his adult life in prison!
2006-12-19 11:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋