2006-12-19 11:28:39 · 22 answers · asked by BLB G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would tell him on the first 'date' only if the subject comes up. Sometimes they ask if you've ever been married and such... If the subject doesn't come up - wait until the 2nd date. That way you'll know if he's interested in you enough to ask you out a second time, if he doesn't ask you for a third... then you know he got scared off.
By the way, when I say only if the subject comes up - it kinda should come up before you get 'physical'
It's hard being a single mom out there in the dating world. Your children of course come F-I-R-S-T but you have to think about yourself as well.
Good luck!
2006-12-19 11:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something you tell in the beginning. That is an important part of who you are. It isn't anything to be ashamed of. I would think if someone I am dating has children and doesn't mention it then something is wrong. Isn't that a question you ask someone with in the first few minutes of conversation? I don't think you could even get away with not telling someone with out lying.
2006-12-19 11:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Songbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might wanna tell them up front and just be honest about it. It's not fair to lead someone on and then drop a bomb that you have kids - it puts the other person in an awkward position. Be open and honest and find a guy that doesn't mind kids and is still interested in you AND them.
2006-12-19 11:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mention it before you ever even go on the first date with them. That's what I always did. Some guys don't want to be involved with someone with kids so why let any relationship even start. I had a few guys that I told and they were able to gracefully bow out and with no hard feelings from me. Better to be straightforward about it than to just spring it on them later.
2006-12-19 11:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mom and personally i tell right away because my kids are the most important thing in my life and if the guy isn't cool with that he can walk.
2006-12-19 11:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them in the beginning. Why wait? It's nothing to be ashamed of and they should know up front what they're commiting to.
2006-12-19 11:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd tell them in the beginning because then what if you 2 get to know each other better and then you surprise him by saying "oh, by the way, i have kids.".
i don't think he's gonna want this kind of surprise. I'd tell them in the beginning that way they'd know what's going on in my life.
2006-12-19 11:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis Samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes always be honest because there will find out in the end. If u really love them or have strong feeling for a person be honest and if they have the same feeling they will accept you and your children too.
2006-12-19 11:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by robbie3839 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you tell them right off the bat! Do you want them to think you're a liar "right off the bat?" Would you want someone to lie to you? Could you ever trust them again?
2006-12-19 11:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by Amy L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to withhold such an important aspect of your life? Or do I look at parenthood differently than you do?
2006-12-19 11:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋