I'm 24, have an ex of 3 months who is 26. We broke up because he had controlling/jealousy issues. I've known him for 9 years. He is a great guy with a lot going for him. I just don't like to feel "owned", I would rather feel like a partner, not employee. Anyways, he asked me for a few drinks tonight. I know just meeting once isn't a committment, but don't know if I want to open up that can of worms. Any advice?
2006-12-19 11:21:36 · 15 answers · asked by Emily M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go, on condition that you pay! You want to be treated equally, you have to show it. Explain that you won't be with an insecure guy who doesn't trust you and thinks your stupid. Getting jealous shows insecurity and a lack of trust. Tell him you are not some stupid little girl looking for a new daddy. Then say "You don't control me!" Throw a $10 on the table and storm out!! He will try to come after you, don't say anything, just leave. Let him think about it and if there is any chance he is willing to see you on = terms, he will call you a few days later. Don't answer let him leave a message. Decide on your own whether or not he gets a 2nd chance. If you don't want to be controlled you have to make decisions on your own.
2006-12-19 11:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how that feels. Get out while you can. All of the things yo mention leads to other problems much bigger. Such as abuse.Physically, mentally or both. If i were you I'd opt to stay in for the night with out him. I would call him and let him know you are not property and if he can not handle that oh well. No women deserves to be treated like that. Good luck with what ever you decide. PS they say they can change but the success rate of that is very low.
2006-12-19 11:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by ondike05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems such as you have no longer have been given very plenty appreciate to your ex boyfriend because you communicate him to be a "drama queen". you could desire to think of over the explanation why you broke up with him and weigh them against the useful the explanation why you desperate to pass out with him interior the 1st place. in case you have greater the explanation why you need to proceed the relationship than the explanation why you need to pass away issues as they are, then choose for it. What reasons the drama? If issues you maximum get exhilaration from or refuse to do on concepts are the reason for his dramatic habit, then you certainly ought to pass away him on my own.
2016-10-18 12:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by bridgman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like hanging out with him then you should go...Just make sure u tell him ahead of time its just as friends. Who knows maybe the time apart may have changed him a bit? Give it a try :)
2006-12-19 11:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!! He's grieving the loss of the relationship, and you need to be consistent, to help him work through the pain as soon as possible. The kindest thing is to keep the door shut.
It IS cruel to string him along, and you already know it's not going to work. Don't give him mixed signals. It'll just screw him up more, and probably come back to haunt you.
2006-12-19 11:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you think that he is still in the the same mind frame that he was in when you were together then why waste your time
2006-12-19 11:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex for a reason. think about that for a while. if you still want to go, have fun.
2006-12-19 11:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt go he just might be controlling AGAIN But maybe he's realized that he shouldnt be like that and has changed
2006-12-19 11:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by Brtny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah, dont go. if you dont want to be in a relationship with him, dont lead him on. there is no such thing as friends after relationships.
2006-12-19 11:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mastronaut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with him, don't go out with him. Listen to your gut (and your gut says no or you wouldn't be asking)
2006-12-19 11:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jdeezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋