I found out that the child that sits next to mine in school(kindergarten) thier father is a registered sex offender.What do i do or do i do anything at all.Should i talk to the teacher.Should i have my daughter moved? Do i just watch her extra carefully?What i don't want to start an outroar and cause trouble but i am concerened should i be?
2006-12-19 11:19:47 · 16 answers · asked by guess w 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ok first point the child is not responsible for the sins of the father.
Second point you can get on the sex offender lists for lots of things that don't have to do with children. Getting caught with a prostitute or indecent exposure (in an adult setting) are all things you can get on those lists for. And although I'm not saying to condone them they're not horrible things to do. Thirdly if the man is an offender against children then he's not allowed anywhere near your child's school anyway. There are laws now prohibiting people who've committed offenses against children from living, working, or even being within a certain distance of schools, malls, and playgrounds. And if you feel you need to talk to the teacher...you'll probably find they already know. Most children with criminal parents alert the schools (especially at young ages) so the teachers don't just let daddy take them "home".
2006-12-19 13:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The child is not a sex offender - the child hasn't done anything wrong. Leave it be. You may want to let the teacher know about what you have discovered so that she can watch the other child extra carefully to look for signs of sex abuse
Also, keep in mind that a person can get put on the sex offenders list for peeing beside the road when you can't find a gas station or a public restroom. Some people who are on the list do not deserve to be there - but on the other hand some need to still be in prison - just don't let your child stay over at their house and worry about your own
2006-12-19 11:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be concerned but look at it from the view of the sex offenders daughter? She didnt ask for her father to be a sex offender and neither is it her fault. I wouldn't talk to the teacher because this can mean many parents know and the child being isolated without being just or even knowing why. I would make sure if she becomes friends with this child all visits or such like are with the mother or even at your house to ensure the safety of your child. Maybe start talking to her and making sure she is very open with you about boys that she likes and what goes on at kindergarten and home. Most of all the child's father doubtfully lives with them and i also doubt he would be allowed to access his daughter in kindergarten with his record. Good Luck with it but calm down and think what is also best for your daughter and his daughter.
2006-12-19 11:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by passport_to_heaven1210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not possibly think that the CHILD that sits next to your child poses a threat. If the convicted parent were to volunteer in the classroom or come anywhere near the school, report THAT. The child of this person is an innocent and I can not imagine that anyone would want to embarrass or cause the permanent damage that such a stigma would result in.....Please do not even think about this...ugh! Be involved & volunteer in the classroom, regardless this situation - and you will always know all of your child's friends....obviously, you won't be sending your child over for a playdate at the desk neighbor's home.
2006-12-19 12:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem isn't the kid with a registered sex offender for a parent. Its all those kids who have parents who are sex offenders and AREN'T registered.
As you can see, trying to protect your child from this issue is difficult and can be easily overwhelming. Just keep doing what you are, don't get too worried, the teachers are trained and probably know more about your daughter's fellow students than you ever will. Most of all LISTEN to your daughter.
Also, keep in mind the majority of children are molested by someone WITHIN their family. When it comes to child molestation, strangers are not the biggest threat.
2006-12-19 11:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by patrick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if the child has a registered sex offender for a parent...they most likly do not see that parent...
the CHILD is not an offender...
and if the child was... moving your child would not be the surefire move.... there is always the playground.
I think just watch your child and ask GENERAL questions like
" How was school?" "anything interesting happen?" and all young souls... even Kindergarten children should be taught about the private areas of their bodies and that only they can touch their own in the bathroom or bedroom in private and that it is NEVER okay to allow anyone to touch them in a personal area and they should never touch anyone else's and to how to report if someone tries to touch them.
2006-12-19 11:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by samantha h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, number one, your child's sitting arrangement shouldn't be changed. Daddy's being a sicko, isn't this kids fault. Second, I would be on your gaurd for any unsual behavior, but I seriously doubt that this is going to have an effect on your child. Just don't let your little person play at THEIR house. Nothing wrong with inviting the other little person to your house though. I mean, this child hasn't done anything wrong. Why shouldn't they have friends? Nothing wrong with being concerned, heck I know I would be. Just be certain that your daughter has nothing to do with that man. Reenforce the we-don't-talk-to-strangers bit, and I think all will be fine. I would use extreme caution when it comes to the father, but this kid hasn't done anything wrong. Nothing you mentioned anyway.
2006-12-19 11:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Patty O' Green 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's the father that is the sex offender not the child. You could mention it to the teacher so she can keep an eye on the child in case the other child shows signs of abuse. I wouldn't worry about it unless your child starts saying things that she might have heard from her friend. The child is innocent.
2006-12-19 11:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't move your child it is not the others child's fault,but yes talk to the teacher in case the dad ever volunteers for field trips or classroom activity's and just watch your child carefully let her know she is not to go to this other child's home
2006-12-20 04:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child will be ok. Just make sure you talk with her about good touch and bad touch. Let her know that she can talk to you any time about anything.(continue to remind her of this as she grows) And when she is at school if someone uses a bad touch she needs to speak to a teacher right away she will not be in trouble for tatling.
2006-12-19 20:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Char 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋