Im 2 months pregnant and I already have 2 kids. My boyfriend and i recently got engaged. I was very sick in the hospital but got released early. When I went to see him to tell him the update on our childs health I found a female in his bedroom naked as the day she was born. I dont believe in abortion and this is going to be my third child. I really do love him and he says he is very sorry for what he did to us. I dont want to have my third child out of wedlock. I stopped taking birth control because it made my hair fall out terrible. Should I stay with him and get married in January or let him go for doing me so wrong in my time of trouble.
2006-12-19 11:18:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to hear about that, I know, it hurts
Well, do you truly love him, do you truly want to be with him and can you ever forgive him, I stayed with my fiance after she cheated on me, yes it hurt, yes, it was probably one of the worst pains ive ever felt, and yes, it has taken a lot of work from both of us to get as far as we have now and let it be basically in the past.
Honestly, I think if you do forgive him, you should call off the marraige, you wont be able to forgive him near enough by then..It's up to you, but thats what I'd do.
But then there are people who cant be in a relationship after someone cheats, If you cant see yourself ever forgiving him, et out now, you will be miserable if you cant ever put it behind you, even if you do forgive him, it will still take a long time to get the trust back, and to truly and completely forgive.
It ultimatly comes down to you, dont end it if you dont want to, but the option of breaking up is always avaliable for a situation like this.
Just know, if you forgive him it will take probably years of hard work and there will be many "back to square ones," It's not something that you can put in your past over the course of one day, but I found, at least with me and my fiance, that eventually It's worth it..
2006-12-19 11:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ethernaut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He cheated on you while you were in the hospital and pregnant with his child. Tell him to kick rocks. You deserve better and so do you kids. Keeping him around because you don't want to have a child out of wedlock is a selfish reason. Your children don't need to be around someone who has no self worth, is selfish, has no self respect and has no respect or consideration for others. It's not just the fact that he cheated on you, it shows the type of person he is. This is just the first time you caught him. It probably has happened before and will happen again.
2006-12-19 11:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your a beautiful woman and should not have to face this kind of trouble while pregnant. Love is forever but truthfulness last as long as a person keeps it, cheating is cheating. Though I don't have the right to tell you to leave him, I want you to ask yourself something are you only in love because your pregnant or because your really love him. I do have one thing to tell you about your boyfriend if he would rather have sex than try to wait for you while you are ill I would tell you to reevaluate your current realtionship with this man. If he is unfaithful now won't he be in the future, also think about the fact how you will never trust him again. I hope this helped you if you need more help send me an email at ask_dr_neo@yahoo.com
2006-12-19 11:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dr.Neo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the SOB. Have the child or not it is your decision. Wedlock schmed lock, your child deserves a good parent if you decide to have it. What could a child possibly learn from a jerk like him?
2006-12-19 11:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't marry your guy for the children its not fair for you or them plus he cheated thats a sign to run from him once a man cheats its a habit they will do it again caz they got away with it last time. i was married to a guy for 14 years he cheated on me so many times i have 3 children and i thought like you in the beginning i knew he cheated while we were dating but i thought i could change him. it turns out to be that he was abusive and a cheater he made my life bad and finally i left him. now im married to a wonderful guy that respects me and also believes that cheating is bad. having 3 children is hard but think about how much you love and care for them....children see a lot of whats going on in your relationship with their dad if they see that their dad has no respect for you your children won't have it for you either. good luck
2006-12-19 11:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave your door to your heart open for pain again. children are not a good reason to stay with any man dating are married. respect is very important in any relationship demand it. Don't let your children see a man miss treat you. You can also keep open mind move out and go to counseling
2006-12-19 11:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by sunshineboot1006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT MARRY HIM!!!!
drop him. you were sick in the hospital, carrying his child, and he was so selfish & uncaring as to f*#@ some other girl. do you want to teach your children that they should put up with such disrespect & selfishness from a partner? you don't need him, you can find someone better who actually loves & cares for you and treats you with respect!!
2006-12-19 11:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think so little of yourself that you feel you deserve to be with such an a** for the rest of your life?! And what an awful example for your children!
You shouldn't even have to ask, sweetie. Leave him and find someone who will support you and love you! You deserve it! Your kids deserve it!
Best of luck to you!
2006-12-19 11:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have 2 out of wedlock? what's a 3rd? You see his true character. get out before you need to pay a divorce lawyer to leave him!
2006-12-19 11:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is...will you ever EVER be able to get that mental image out of your head of that "naked girl" and him together. what they shared? what he said to her in the throws of passion? the fact that while you were sick in the hospital, carrying his child, he cheated on you. I wish i was engaged to him, so that i could leave him for you.... what a jerk, i am sooo sorry.
2006-12-19 11:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋