Is he ever going to get a job. I really love him but he cant afford anything and is always asking me for money. And it seems like he is tearing our relationship apart. Thanks for your help.
2006-12-19 11:11:00 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honey, I think you know the answer to your question. You have to think about your future a little bit. Do you want a family with this man? a home? retirement? I hate to say it but, we live in a time where almost every household has to have two incomes. Just think about what kind of life you want and if you can make that happen with him. Good Luck... I've shared your pain before.
2006-12-19 11:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by DitziD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you do with him? You leave him!!! What exactly do you love about him? What is he contributing to the 'relationship'?Sure I bet he is wonderful to you, he better be, you are his gravy train, you allow him to sit on his butt all day, you let him do nothing and then reward him by being his girlfriend and giving him money. Do you pay for all the dates too?
Come on be serious, this isn't a relationship. You don't want anything to change because then what would you complain about? If you want change, get the heck out and away from this freeloader. He certainly isn't going to change anything, he has it made.
Get some self esteem and go find someone that carries their weight in the relationship. No one is better than what you got!
2006-12-19 11:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you still in this relationship?????? Love does not conquer all, you should have left this looser a long time ago, he is never going to work if you keep handing out the money. He is tearing the relationship apart and you are letting him, you deserve better so leave him and go find some one that will least work.
2006-12-19 11:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady take it from me iv been where u r. Kick his sorry but to the curb. there r alot more fish in the sea. trust me if he loved u then he would want 2 have a job so he could help u out. so if hes telling u he luvs u then tell him 2 get a job to help u out and prove to u that hes real. he needs 2 wake up and smell the coffee, cause the world does not revolve arround him.
2006-12-19 11:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of relationship can you have with a non-productive member. Now I am not saying you have to be with someone who has a lot but you do have to have some basic. But if you are happy with the ways things are going then stay in the relationship.
2006-12-19 12:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Gee-Gee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump that loser. A relationship is a two way street. This looks like a one way to me.
How can you honestly introduce your bf to your family and friends. The first thing people will ask is what does he do for a living. Would you be proud to say..."uhhh nothing. He just sits at home and watch TV."?
You can do better. Leave him before it's too late.
2006-12-19 11:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have more patience than anyone i know. 4 years? i can't not working. you can not keep giving him money. he must get a job or find a different lady to mooch off of. he would get a job if he cared. good luck
2006-12-19 11:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by East Texan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obviously he wants to use and abuse you. there is no way you can go on like that. leave him and stop supporting him. he isn't a child. he needs to get of his *** and start looking for a job. tell it to him, tell him to pack up and leave and ask him to make it quick.
(sad thing is he will still have the nerve to ask you for bus fee)
2006-12-19 11:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by mysticshabs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pack his belongs and put them outside the door, then put him out there with his belongings. Seriously, why are you putting up with him? It sounds like you have little confidence and little self esteem. You are allowing him to be who is is....a sad sack looser. You deserve way better. Get some help
2006-12-19 11:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by penelope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's pretty comfy just floating along as the water is swirling. Wash your hands and walk away.
2006-12-19 11:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋