Teenagers.................................?

Question

Okay look. My girlfreinds parents have a son who is 14. He yells at them and has ADHD with anger pros. He went to boot camp and that made him worse. He controls his parents and was locked up for hitting me. Any ideas on how to help him. And he has a brother thats 10. He is starting to get like him and in fact he is just like him. Maybe even worse. Does any one have any ideas on to help both or the, or just 1 of them. They need your help and the next step was to send him to a lock down camp for good.

Answer 1

Well, a boot camp for a person with ADHD would certainly not have been my first choice if I was looking for a positive attitude adjustment, but as thats in the past, I have to let that rest. If they are seriously considering a lock-down camp, they are going to have to find one that can chain the person to a bed or a post and has the capacity to give enough sedative that they will likely knock the person out, literally, because the person with ADHD has a constant need for some kind of action.

A person with ADHD has many problems to deal with, both socially and professionally. One thing a person with ADHD is prone to do is to make very fast and decisive decisions which are not necessarily in their best interest. They may be the dream of every retailer because if they see something and decide they want it, they are going to obsess about it until they either buy it, have it given to them as a gift, or (if they are inclined as some are) steal it.

That being said, if there are constructive activities that such a person can engage in which they enjoy, whatever those be, these should be encouraged. People with ADHD can devote quite long periods of time on topics of interest to them. Perhaps a volunteer position might be good for him too. At 14, he is probably too young to be legally hired to work somewhere, so a volunteer position, particularly focussing around a topic which he is already interested in, would likely be a great way to help control some of his anger.

There are lots of resources available online about ADHD. If you read over some of them, you'll get a fairly good sense as to the type of person he is, and you'll also gain, I hope, a much better understanding of ADHD as a whole.