simple example is I can't go out with friends with out him if it's night out ,dinner ,moives etc always tell me what to do ..in other way he is nice to me he buys me everything . if I want somthing it my way but he needs to know where I am ?who I am talking to?etc... and he start abusing me not physicaly though
2006-12-19 10:36:23 · 15 answers · asked by di0r_punk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do not walk, but run away from this relationship. It sounds like you are involved with someone who needs to control you, and it will get worse. Jealousy is often the result of poor self esteem on his part, and he gets through this by trying to control you to make himself feel more important. He almost assuredly has little respect for himself, and he will have less respect for you. He may buy you everything, but you can't be bought, and the price will never be right.
Sorry, but you need to find a boyfriend who can RESPECT and TRUST you. Without both of those things, the relationship has nowhere to go. Any indications of abuse, verbal or physical, is a sign to get out while you still can. Find a friend who can walk you through a solid but quick exit strategy.
2006-12-19 10:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by andy_phillips95125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being emotionally abusive and extremely controlling, and buying you everything you want to make you feel you owe him something. If he is like this before you are even married what do you think the rest of your life is going to be like? If I were you I'd get out of there now, before you waste any more time with him and have to go through a divorce. It may seem like a very hard thing to do but I'm sure it would be for the best - you can't live like that, you're human, you have rights.
All the best I hope everything works out for you : )
2006-12-19 20:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The previous answers are on track. This will not be easy for you. He will pressure you and try very hard to manipulate you. Please do not let him trap you into discussions, because he will use every excuse to change your mind, and the discussions could become violent if he does not get his way.
You should have, if at all possible, someone who has your best interest at heart, to help you through this; someone with a strong personality to encourage you. I do not like to predict unpleasantness, but experience has taught me that this type of situation needs support from someone who has YOUR best interest at heart (I know, I repeated myself). Ask for help if you do decide to end the relationship. If you cannot find an acquaintance to support you in this, seek professional counseling. This is your LIFE and you owe it to yourself to protect yourself from him.
Remember, there are many fine men who would like to have a relationship with a lady, and you will see that someone will come along who will treat you as you really deserve to be treated.
2006-12-19 22:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by intrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is controlling you. He thinks he owns you and he doesn't want to share. Buying you stuff is just another way of owning you and it's will be his defence if you get mad at him.
Emotional abuse is abuse none the less. Think really seriously about whether or not he's what you want for the rest of your life - it will be a lot less painful to get out now.
Ask you friends and family to honestly tell you what they think of him.
2006-12-19 23:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Stigmeister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a manipulative sneaky man, jealousy can turn very ugly, you must think about getting out of this relationship. Like so many others who have answered this question, I have been there, with a man exactly like that, and he almost killed me, it took that long for me to realise just what a dangerous situation I was in. Please please think about what you are getting yourself into, any form of abuse is wrong, verbal, mental, physical, it's all the same thing.
2006-12-20 04:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is making sure you are safe, if you are with friends then tell him you are with friends even have one of the friends talk to him from your cell phone and a female friend eventually he will stop calling you on your night out with friends.
2006-12-19 18:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by lara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any abuse is a big no no get out now. as it is not acceptable . The abuse thing on its own is enough said.
2006-12-19 18:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by gdmills37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is abusive and controlling, you are not being treated like a princess. He is not overprotective, he's controlling.
2006-12-19 18:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this relationship. Abuse always starts with verbal abuse, then it progresses to physical.
2006-12-19 18:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by shawnriley2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is controlling... VERY controlling. If you don't want to be harrassed by him for the rest of your life, drop him and look for someone who is secure enough to trust you.
2006-12-19 19:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋