I am an attractive, smart, humorous guy who wants someone to start a famly with. But dating is sooo hard after thirty. All of the girls I know my age are married or not looking or just not my type. There are several girls who have expressed interest but they don't interest me because they are too old for a family, not compatible, or just not attractive to me. And the women who are single moms: I am not against dating someone with a child, but it makes things harder and I fell I must also really like the child as well. I have thought of going back and taking some classes but many college gals are too young for me, or I am too old for them. I go to church, get on internet dating sites, spend time around friends, and even go up and introduce myself to girls while bowling or even at the supermarket. But alas, it seems she is not out there.
2006-12-19 10:17:44 · 23 answers · asked by lend322 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be patient, look at all options. Don't rule out women with children, because they are most times the ones who need it most.
Keep looking around, but look at the entire picture.
2006-12-19 10:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by shy skye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to more people than you think and it normal but not the end of the world. Don't fret. You haven't exhausted all your options. I think you should look into traveling specially singles trips or anywhere for that matter. I definetly feel it's your environment and comfort zone that are the issue rather than you as person. You seem like a great guy and as many women that I know personally who would like to meet great guys..one has to be out there for you just not where you continually search. Also remember you never find something when you're searching so hard for it. You'll putting all your concentration into looking for someone and making all these rules I'm sure you've passed by someone who's really great because you're not open to seeing her. Continue to be your great self and someone will come along one day. When it's meant to be it will happen.
2006-12-19 10:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree that 31 is too old to start dating and meeting new people. My thirty-something year old friends and I believe that men are "ready" to settle down after thirty. You're at a ripe age!
I would recommend sticking to online dating. Online dating allows you to filter out people by likes, dislikes, age, location, religion and leaves you with a pool of people you share interests with. And I would strongly recommend the sites that you have to pay for, such as match.com, matchmaker.com, etc. The money you will pay per month should be worth it, if you are really that interested in meeting someone. That's how I met some really nice guys..and eventually my husband! Go online with the attitude of meeting some nice women to go out with...eventually, you will meet someone you are attracted to. Tell all your friends at work, church, etc that you are actively looking and perhaps they could introduce you to someone.
Good luck to you. You will find that special someone.
2006-12-19 10:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she walks in the room you will know. Fretting over the life and Family you feel make you complete is irrational.
I recently married and prior to that event my Wife had remaind single and unattached until she was 44 years old. So there is hope you just have to be patient. Plus the more despirate you become the easier a target for less scrupulous females you will become.
Relax it will happen in time if that is what life has in store for you.
2006-12-19 10:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for a perfect woman i am afraid she's not out there. You know exactly what you want so use the Internet dating service, 31 is not too old to be single you thought you would be married with kids by now the right one is out there and when you meet her you will know.
2006-12-19 10:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been single. i,m in my 40,s and never married ,father of 2 kids ,i,m still into the dating game and find my self as average,secure and stable. many dating sites on the net --try to work with the profiles that you like --age and race a problem ??bowling & the store are interesting
2006-12-19 10:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for that girl. You also need to stop thinking the way you do about women with kids. How would you feel if you had a child and there was this girl that you really liked and she told you that she didn't want to talk to you because you had a child. I think you would be upset. You need to think about it. Back to your answer, just pray and God will send you somebody when He think you are ready. Keep praying and trusting in Him and He will bring it to pass.
God Bless!!!
2006-12-19 10:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by moyonnas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by farraj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are single we tend to think all our problems will be solved when we get a partner and it is not true. When I was married there were days I missed my single days so much it hurt. I would say: enjoy being single, love your single life, cause that is sure to attract women to you.
2006-12-19 10:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be doing all the right things. Keep doing them. Also, join some associations like young people professional networks, Public relation society association or whatever association there is for your career. They really do help trust me
2006-12-19 10:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋