My ex keeps taking my daughter to different doctors for different things. 2 years ago my daughter missed alot of school from an unknown virus and the affects of mold which weakened her imune system. Last year my ex took my daughter to a doc and got the doc to write an excuse for mono after affects. (My daughter had had mono a year earlier) The doc ran all kinds of tests and found nothing wrong but it was after the doc had writted an excuse from school for 6 weeks.
This year and another doc my ex got an excuse to keep my daughter out of school from Oct thru Jan 07. For depression. My daughter is currently taking 150mg of zoloft. Further my ex is having her tested for imune system deficiency because my ex feels something is wrong with her imune system.
School won't do anything since there are dr excuses, CPS won't do anything unless the drs complain. I have had 2 custody hearings and the judge doesn't want to do any thing.
This is a repeat of what the mom did to who is not 16.
2006-12-19 10:17:07 · 12 answers · asked by Tom C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Go with her to appointments, talk to doctor yourself. 150mg of zoloft for what. Think the Mom is making her sick? There have been cases of Mom inventing symptons and making a child sick, that is a disease itself. then again, maybe the child is sick, best way to find out is go along to doctor with child and ex. Maybe mom is working up to some type of nice monthly SS check for the kids (for herself), who knows. People commit fraud again SS a lot nowadays, use their children to do it. I could be wrong on all counts, just expressing my ideas per your request.
2006-12-19 10:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to document things to the court and CPS, Also take you teen to your own provider to secnod that half her excuses weren't needed. Keep writing CPS and sooner they get tired Of reading your name an investigate. Make sure you have nothing to hide and are completely honest. CPS represents the Teen not you so make sure that their is nothing hiding in the dark the mom can try to dig up on you.
Have the school write a letter if you can, guidance counselor, peer advisor whomever. Papertrail back up is very imporant and the court needs to see you mean business. Custody is a long process. You didn't mention mediation. You need to have you child and ex see the mediator. The mediator can see your daughter secluded from the ex and you can get to the bottom of this and the medication is not good for someone so young. Peer counsel is better medication than drug dependancy............... Good Luck
2006-12-19 10:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by Dy$e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My stepmom does the thing with my little sis. I think its a mental disorder in the mom. It could be Munchausen Syndrome. There isnt much you can do if CPS and a judge dont think anything is wrong. I know its frustrating, believe me I do. I hate that my sis is on all kinds of meds and misses so much school. I would however ask for copies of all her medical records and take them to a couple docs of your choice that can look at them and see if they see the same thing you do. If so then take it back to the judge. Good Luck and take Care.
2006-12-19 10:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well alright then. School only lasts (usually) 180 days. If you want custody of your daughter I'd say you have a good case. The judges are being silly. .. this is a good case. It's against the law to keep this up. Hasn't she had to go to truancy court yet??? What is this teaching the child? Good Luck
2006-12-19 10:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be munchausen by proxy. It's a disorder where the parents think their kids are sick and constantly take them to to doctor. (Sometimes the parents even poison the kids a little to give them symptoms.) The doctors end up writing Rx's just to keep the parent happy. The parent also skips from one doctor to another, to avoid being found out. Here's a link to help you:
http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/system/ill/munchausen.html
2006-12-19 10:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to CPS again. Tell them that she goes to different docs to get these excuses and that your daughter has missed a lot of school (I'm surprised she hasnt been held back). That's all you can do.
2006-12-19 10:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask your daughter if she wants to be in school. If she does then tell her mother that if not what about looking into home schooling there are kids with a lot more serious conditions and they still get some kind of schooling!
2006-12-19 10:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by missthang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u ever heard of munchomby proxy.I know I spelled it wrong.But it is when parents do things to there children so they end up in the hospital or doctors.Then they end up with all this sympathy and are noticed.It's a long shot but get a lawyer and talk to him about it.You never know.Good luck
2006-12-19 11:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call DCFS. they could at least look into it for you. It sounds like your ex is a hypo condriact. have you talked to your daughter to see if she is really sick, and/or depressed, or does she just not like school? If she is having effects from Mold she most likely got that from your ex's home and that will need to be taken care of before your daughter gets better.
2006-12-19 10:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgurllexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get custody!!! call a father's rights group and try to present with a different judge. Take your daughter to a physician when she's with you and have them write that there's a clean billof health. PLease watch your daughter. Studies show that Anti-depressant in children can lead to suicidal thoughts.
2006-12-19 14:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Ella727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋