what the hell is wrong with me, iv never been insecure in a relationship...
i dont even know or seen his ex in my life and yet i cant get over the fact he was with her... he said he didnt even love her and im his 1st love...
how can i get over this??????
2006-12-19 10:08:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
iv been with him for 14 months and i love him so much and he loves me!
2006-12-19 10:11:46 · update #1
I think it's because this guy is the real deal, he's the one you can see yourself with for a long time.
Your insecurites could end this relationship so you need to deal with them and he can help by being very upfront, very open with everything he's doing and to reassure you all the time.
From your point of view, don't constantly check up on him, recognise you have these feelings, explain them to him if you can and use your intelligence to tell yourself that your feelings are because you care so much rather than mistrust him.
2006-12-19 10:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, until we feel really secure in a relationship, we are more prone to jealousy. Talk to your BF, tell him you're having a really hard time knowing he's been with someone else, love or not. Hopefully he'll be more apt to complement you and also not do things that make you feel insecure about his intentions and love for you. Good luck!
2006-12-19 10:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 23:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by rieck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its obvious that you love this guy if you are feeling so insecure about this.
I know its hard but you have to get past this because everyone has a past, don't you??
If you keep doing this you will end up pushing your boyfriend away for good and then you will be alone because of these insecurities.
Good luck xxx
2006-12-19 10:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are afraid to lose him. Which is making you detest his past relationships.
Be careful as this can lead him to think you are over obsessive and work against you.
Every time his ex comes to mind think of YOUR past experiences and how much he wouldn't like knowing what happened. This should make you realise that it benefits no one going over the past.
Look to the future together. Good luck.
2006-12-19 10:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by GeneHunt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to pull yourself together on this one, love.
The important thing is, however insecure you feel, try to act normal with your bf.
If he gets the impression you're needy and insecure he may do a runner. Few guys can cope with that sort of thing for long.
Try to chill out a bit. When you start to feel insecure and scared, take deep breaths and keep your trap shut.
Hope it works out :-)
2006-12-19 10:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way and it willl help you forget all that nonsense He was with her because he did not know you existed. If you cannot forget his previous girl you will turn into a 'pain in the butt and you may even end up where you started.... without him. For me, there nothing more uncomfortable than your girl being unduly jealous.... It is really is a pain in the butt.
2006-12-19 11:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by RED-CHROME 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a number of possibilities
- Mabey your insticts are telling you that he is lying - in which case kick him to the curb
- Mabey you don't trust a guy who would be with someone and not even love them - in which case your value systems are too far apart - kick him to the curb
- If you have been in other relationships mabey you have some stuff there that you need to get to the other side of before you can really trust some one new - in which cas your the one who need to do the work
2006-12-19 10:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by crazymamaca 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's with you.Get a self esteem book before you drive him away.
He seems to say all the right things.Maybe you just can't believe
some one can love you so much.
2006-12-19 10:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Butt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f past has nothing to do with you,your past has nothing to do with him.You both lived your lives without knowing each other,or ,at least,not knowing you would be to-gether.The only thing that's important is that you love each other.Don't let the past spoil the present.
2006-12-19 10:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋