I am 24 and can't get a ladyfriend, what is wrong with me?

Question

No matter what I do I cannot get a ladyfriend. I am quiet and very well groomed. However, I am stocky. I have reached a conclusion that I am not attractive. I get no attention whatsoever.

Please feel free to comment.

Answer 1

I know a really big guy who gets laid so much it's off the charts.

It's not in your appearance, it's in your attitude.

FP

Answer 2

Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. I think everybody has a degree of sex appeal to them. Its important that you remain true to yourself and know what you want in a potential ladyfriend. Dont make the mistake of so many others and just settle in fear they will never find another, it will bite you in the ***. I am no Don Juan, but I have found that the female species like guys who are in touch with their feelings, funny, witty, and am comfortable with themselves, and a degree of confidence, but also the abilty to laugh at themselves. Its always the people who are really insecure that take themselves WAY TO SERIOUS, and try to mask up their insecure ways with *********, dont be that guy. Most young girls are clueless as to this behavoir with young guys, but the older they get, they start to pick up on it. Best of luck. I just met a ladyfriend after not having one for awhile, and I think she may be the one. I am glad that I waited and didnt force anything. Take care.

Answer 3

I've watched those Maury Povitch "how'd ya like me now?" shows. You know, .... the wimpy guy or the plain jane in 8th grade who everybody laughs at and walks wide around. Then ten or so years later, that person has called the Maury Show wanting to set up a reunion with their chief tormenter. LOL I loved those shows. That poor sorry mouse. That pasty-faced 110 pound weakling with the big glasses and the buck teeth. That fatso with zits and the wobble belly who everybody laughed at when he tried to run ..... heeeeeere they come out from behind that curtain and - Oooooooeeeee Wow, How do ya like me now?!
You don't need ten years to make a change. You need one huuuuuuge dose of "want to" You sound like a person with a terrific basic ingredient.. .You're nice, and clean cut fella - trust me, that's a great beginning. Now get busy on the rest of you. You can do it if you want it bad enough. Trim down, get into the gym - get some free weights, beef up. Give yourself a dream, and then go after it with all ya got, Mental image DOES change with body image. Little by little you will see physical changes in your appearance, and as you do, you'll find your enthusiasm growing, along with your general self confidence. Twenty four is a great age to be sharp, and you CAN do it. Thousands have. Remember, a journey of even a thousand miles begins with a single step, and you don't have anything like a thousand miles to go before you can look in the mirror and grin, and whisper to the world "How do ya like me NOW."

Answer 4

First of all !!!!STOP LOOKING!!!! The harder you look the more you are going to strikeout. Are you "STOCKY" or "OVERWEIGHT" the line separating the two is very fine. Either way just enjoy your life hangout with friends,go to work and above all !!!RELAX!!! and when you least expect it a woman will walk into your life and you will be all set.But if you really want "FAST RESULTS" then start attending singles events like dances and other activities.BUT WHEN YOU ARE AT ONE !!!!DO NOT!!!! AND I REPEAT !!!!DO NOT!!!! COME ON TOO STRONG OR !!!!ACT LIKE YOU ARE DESPERATE!!!!! IF YOU DO YOU WILL DRIVE WOMEN AWAY OR IN THE WORST CASE YOU WILL ATTRACT THE KIND OF WOMAN THAT WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU UNTIL YOU FIGURE OUT THAT SHE IS USING YOU AND THEN SHE WILL DROP YOU LIKE A BAD HABIT.Just enjoy yourself STAY LOOSE and mingle and you should find someone that way also.

Answer 5

I have two scenarios for you:
1) you are too picky and need to look at a broader range of possibilities. Sometimes we overlook people right in front of us becuase we have our "rose colored perfect mate finding glasses" on. Take them off, and take another look around. Nobody is perfect...we all have flaws - both physically and relationally.
2) You are not getting out to places where you can find a lady. Try online dating - no shame in that. It is a fast way to connect with people like you.

Finally - have you seen stocky people married? Yeah - me too. So that is no excuse.

Good luck - and may God bless and direct your search.

Answer 6

I don't think it's because you're not attractive (which probably isn't true! I have faith in you!). It's probably because you don't open yourself up to women enough. You mentioned that you're quiet; maybe you need to break out of your shell a bit. Just try starting a conversation with a girl that seems lonely (but not busy!). You never know where you'll end up.

Answer 7

Do you go to clubs? Shopping? Go talk to a girl and don't be shy, they won't do anything at all unless you say the wrong words...just ask for their number and progress from there. Everyone has a soul-mate you just have to know how to approach them correctly. Search for girl very rarely will they come to you.

Good Luck :-D

Answer 8

Don't wait for it to happen -- make it happen.

It's most unlikely it's your looks -- married people aren't any better-looking than others.

Be friendly and outgoing. Practise it hard. Talk with checkout operators. Say Hi! to people you meet in the passing. Smile and keep smiling. These are all ways of practising relating to people and so what if three-quarters of them don't respond -- a quarter of them will. And probably more than half of them will. Now, of course most of them are people who you aren't in the least interested in romantically and aren't interested in you that way, but the wider you extend your circle of acquaintances the sooner you'll meet with someone you're really interested in and who'll be interested in you.

Answer 9

just be yourself and don't be a geek.
we aren't that complicated just relax,be yourself,polite and sweet.
women love compliments it's true!!!!!!!
get to know a woman and find out what her personality is like her star sign what makes her tick.
compare what you have in common.
don't pretend to be someone your not.
try a different style of look but stay groomed.
do something different with your facial hair or your hair.
something in your wardrobe something that makes you look appealing.
just be yourself.

Answer 10

the problem is your selfesteem my friend.
Personality its what it counts at the end of the day. Personality is the most important thing someone can have.
Work on iat and on your attiitude and you'll see the difference