For those against young mothers?

Question

Did your mothers really do that bad of a job raising you? You seem to think young mothers are ruining their children. Does this mean your mother was such a terrible mom? I'm talking about the ones who constantly talk on here like young mothers are beneath them. 20-30 years ago, women had children in their late teens-early thirties.

People can say what they want to me. I've let it go since I was 17 and pregnant nearly 4 years ago. But unlike some people, I have a heart. I feel bad for some of these young women on here coming for answers. I just wanted peoples opinions on this. I don't get how they can judge a girl who is pregnant when odds are, the judgemental person's mom was pregnant at the same age.

Answer 1

Hey, I'm a young mom. I turned 21 hile eight months pregnant. I don't think there is any difference in the way a younger mom or older mom raises their child. Younger moms might have more energy, where older moms might have more knowledge. Notice I said might. As with everything else in this world, it depends on the person.

And I have to say this as well: single moms need support too. They get just as much ridicule, especially if they are young as well, as young moms. Being a single young mom, I'm on the worst end of the spectrum. Don't judge anyone untill you know them and their story. People judge me as soon as they know I'm 21 with a 5 month old and no husband/boyfriend. What they don't know is that I made that choice. I decided, for my daughters safety and mine, to leave an abusive and bad man. I decided to not kill my daughter in the womb. My choices don't affect the random people I meet.

Answer 2

Did your mothers really do that bad of a job raising you?
No, she did an ok job.
You seem to think young mothers are ruining their children.
I know i shouldn't care because they are not my kids but, people always say to me that young parents breed young parents. You seem really educated and know what you want to do in life so that's good. I wish you well, but I think it's just harder to fix dinner, bathe the kids, change their diapers, take them out for a stroll, buy them toys, clean the house, work to pay for the house, the childs clothes, toys, doctor's bills, and other expenses, all while going to college at the same time. There are books, finals, and a tuition to worry about.

Does this mean your mother was such a terrible mom?
No, I didn't say that. My mom had a BA degree and was married before she started a family, and so did my dad, who has his MBA.

I'm talking about the ones who constantly talk on here like young mothers are beneath them.
I think you're taking things too literally or become defensive. Maybe they are just concerned for the future generations who aren't generally ready to financially, and emotionally support another human being.

20-30 years ago, women had children in their late teens-early thirties.
True, and that is still true today, however, things are ALOT more expensive due to inflation. And if you want to live somewhere nice and sophisticated, you have to shell out a ton to live there.

Answer 3

I don't think there is anything wrong with young mothers. But, sometimes when people come on here not knowing oral sex or hand jobs cannot get you pregnant the issue comes into play. If our mothers would educate us and prepare us by saying I would rather you wait for sex and have them take sex education or teach them to abstain altogether then it would be better. If they would say that if you do choose to have sex come to us and we will get you birth control and condoms until you are ready for the responsibility of pregnancy and other issues. If they educated their children more, then maybe very young children would not be getting pregnant. With that said, I do not think anyone is beneath me. It doesn't make them terrible parents, but not everyone is educated in this. Not every parent does not educate them and I do not think a young mother should be looked down on. Not all the time the parents are to blame, but I do think some are not educated in these matters. But that is when someone should educate and give them a helping hand if someone young does get pregnant. I am a young mother as well.

Answer 4

Whatever has happened has happened. I find it unfortunate that some teenage girls are misinformed about sex and engage in sexual activity way too young. But I believe that if the girl has stood up to adversity and decided to be responsible for her own actions from that point on, and does so, that there is no reason whatsoever to chastise her. My heart goes out to young mothers, and I admire the courage they have, b/c if anyone else knows or has found out that she is a teenage mother that means she has taken a first step toward realizing the impact of her own decisions and actions on her life, no matter what she decides to do next. My mom got pregnant with me when she was 18, and she kept me and my sister in good hands, I never knew how poor we were until I looked back with a little more knowledge at my childhood. So I for one cannot and will not say anything against teenage mothers until they have done something questionable or wrong with to or in relation to their child.

Answer 5

i am not agaisnt young mothers, but kids are expensive to raise and in a place where I live currently, one would have to have a 100k plus salary a year to live here. There's nothing wrong with having kids young and it's truly and ultimately their choice and their life, but why make it harder for yourself? Technically, people always say that when you go to college, it's a full time job and some young mothers end up getting a job and not going to college so they can reach their full potential. and while others misinterpret that as being against them, that's totally their call.

Answer 6

"I don't get how they can judge a girl who is pregnant when odds are, the judgemental person's mom was pregnant at the same age."

I sometimes make first impressions of people. That's normal. And my mom didn't have me when she was my age (23). She had me when she was 31. She had my brother at 26. I believe that people can form opinions of others, it's human nature. You can't stop them from doing it.

Answer 7

My mom was 18 when she had me, and had 3 kids by the age of 22. My parents are still together, in a loving, and healthy relationship after 23 years of marriage (which is rare these days!) It depends on the person, but it can be done!

Answer 8

I have seen alot of people giving out harsh advice to the young parents on here, makes me feel bad because at least they are trying and not just getting abortions! I think alot of young parents do a great job, I had my son when I was young also and I got alot of ridicule for having a baby at that age. There weren't many adults looking to give me good advice who wouldn't look down on me.

So to the young parents on here looking for answers, more power to you and Good Luck~ :)

Answer 9

Mothers are mothers, no matter what age they are. What does it matter is someone feels the need to spoil their child, to them, their child is a miricle. My aunt had a child after 15years of trying, she now has a 3 year old boy, he is spoilt, but that doesnt mean that his parents are bad!

What is it with people today, cant they just leave others alone and stop judging.

Answer 10

I don't object to young mothers as long as they're married and can provide for their children financially and emotionally without government assistance. My mother had my older sister when she was 17 but she was married when she got pregnant and not pregnant then married. My parents went on to have six other children by the time my mom was 31. They have now been married for 29 years. I just feel you're setting a bad example for your children if you're having them out of wedlock and having multiple children by multiple fathers. I'm sure I'll get lots of thumbs down regarding this comment but that's okay. Children should not be conceived out of wedlock. So if you're 15 and married and want to have a baby, go right ahead, because you have a license to do so.