Wouldnt you feel a little weird or out of place when ALL your friends are pregnant and havnt been with their bf's as long as you have? And they are getting engaged also... I feel like I should be the one getting engaged and pregnant.... what do you think?
2006-12-19 09:46:07 · 18 answers · asked by kdamm05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, you moved in with your boyfriend. This was a mistake. There is no incentive for your guy to marry you when he already has you, just with less commitment and less formality. Don't have a kid until you are married....save the kid some headache, and yourself for that matter. Be smart. I think you should step back a moment and rethink things. You are on a one-way path that may be the wrong path.
2006-12-19 09:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by twicewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be married and have kids? I understand that being the "odd man out" can be tuff when all of your friends are in another place in their lives...and gushing over bridesmaids dresses or tiny booties - but that isn't a reason to jump into marraige or motherhood.
On the other hand - three years is a long time to just be "dating" even if it is serious. Have you talked to your boyfriend about getting married? Does he want kids?
If you're not ready for that chapter in your life but still be weird around your friends - plan a BIG trip. Go somewhere you have always wanted to go and make it the adventure of your life. Not only will you have something positive to focus on and talk about with them, they will be SO jealous of your freedom and flexibility - They will be wishing they could be you!
2006-12-19 09:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 23:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by rieck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Take things slow. Getting engaged and having a baby are BIG commitments. When you feel you are ready than go for it. Until than relax and enjoy life. You can't return a baby or go back. Once a mom always a mom.
2006-12-19 09:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by cheeks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should feel out of place, you are the smart one. Why rush it? Two years might seem long but it reall isn't and you want to make sure you are fully compatible. You should be together at least five years before thinking of marriage or a child.
2006-12-19 09:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's weird when your friends are getting married and starting families and you feel like you're left out in a way! Don't rush to get married or have babies just because everyone else is doing it. Do it when it is right for you. It will be worth it. Trust me!
2006-12-19 09:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not compare your private life with others. You're only seeing a part of their story.
You only need to be aware of the state of your relationship. Is it healthy, loving, and beneficial to you? Are you a better person for it?
If marriage and family are important to you, then are they important to your bf? If your bf believes that your live-in relationship has all the benefits of marriage with none of the responsibilities and that's all he wants, then you do have a problem. That will have to be addressed between you and your bf.
2006-12-19 09:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what you want to do. Just because your friends are getting pregnant does not mean you have to. I would be thankful that my belly is not getting as big as theirs and I could hold on to my figure a little longer. I have 5 kids and they are a lot of responsibility. You should enjoy your life. Things will happen when it is time for them to happen.
2006-12-19 09:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'd probably realize that most of my friends had limited family values if they were getting knocked up with men they hadn't been with very long and weren't married to. I'd make new friends- this bunch seems a little scummy.
2006-12-19 09:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know lots of girls who feel like you do, the fact is, that you can wait, lay down an ultimatum, or leave him. If you are happy with the guy, then just be patient. Oh, and don't get knocked up, wait until you are married.
2006-12-19 09:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by averyanne77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋