A guy meets a girl and starts dating her for like 3 months, then she has to go back home to her native country for 6 months to see her parents and family.... and she tells the guy that he can do whatever he wants whilst shes away, the guy partys alot and drinks and smokes all the time during the 6 months and is 100% faitHful.
When the girl comes back to the country, they are still together and date for another year until she tells the guy that her "husband" is coming from her native country and she had got married to him! BUT pleads to the guy that she wants to be with him and not the husband because it was an arranged marriage. But the guy says NO and leaves.....
What do you make of this????
(btw this has nothing to do with me, this is about my bf and his ex gf, who he said he never loved but i think it was)
2006-12-19 09:43:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's with you. Why are you so worried about who he loved in the past? Would it make you feel better if he loved her. I bet it wouldn't. He left her because she didn't betrayed him irregardless if he loved her or not. I am sure this memory is painful and you're asking him a million questions I bet just to validate yourself. He's with you because he loves you NOW regardless if it was first. Appreciate what you have before you lose it trying to make it perfect. Everyone has a past.
2006-12-19 09:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he was 100% faithful does not mean love, he just might not have had any opportunities in that 6 months.
And if the guy really loved her he would have understood that in her country an arranged marriage is not something you can say no too.
If he loved her he would have stayed with her.
This is not love!!
2006-12-19 09:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is love
2016-03-29 00:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason he told you this story was to make himself look good. If he really loved this girl he wouldn't have left simple as that! And as for the 100% faithful you have no proof other than his own word. I suspect in actual fact he was round town more times than a stagecoach bus. Faithful men don't need to tell everyone about it, they just are.
2006-12-19 09:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not love. You don't marry someone else if you're in love with them even if it's arranged. He might have loved her at one time, but she's married. He made the right choice by telling her no when she said she wanted to be with him again. He should move on now.
2006-12-19 09:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he liked her enough to stay faithful to her. Only your bf will know if it was love or not. Doesn't really matter because he's with you now, and you should feel comfort in that he chooses to be with you over the ex. You can't change his past just deal with the present and your future with him.
2006-12-19 09:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Die S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great he told you everything but I really don't see why you are interested in knowing if it was love or not.
You are with him now and I'm sure you are both very happy with one another.
The past is past... What is important is Now and your actual relationship.
Food for thought: How would you feel if he was questioning you?
Have a wonderful day and much luck to the both of you.
2006-12-19 09:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, sounds like a visa scam. If it's nothing to do with you why worry :) Drop the bf, get a decent bloke and be happy.
2006-12-19 09:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by naplusultra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has done the right thing because she was lying to him and even cheating to him. As you said he was loyal and 100% faithful to her so I think she shouldn't have done this. She shouldn't do what she did to her husband in first place.
2006-12-19 19:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was right to leave.
She's been dishonest for a year or maybe longer if she knew an arranged marriage was her lot in life
2006-12-19 09:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Classique 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋