Last night my 13 year old and 9 year old boys decided to have a paint war in the garage. They found my husbands paint gun for spraying walls and found some old house paint. Not only did they get completely covered in paint themselves they also got a bunch of paint on one of the cars, all over my husbands tools and one of the garage walls. I caught both of them in the act and then they claimed it wasn't their fault... do they think I am stupid? I ended up taking my 9 year old up to his room and spanked him after we got in the house. I told my 9 year old he was also grounded for 2 weeks on top of the spanking.
2006-12-19 09:41:56 · 10 answers · asked by Beth C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They had paint on all their clothes, shoes etc... Anyway I threw them both in the tub. It took me about 2 hours to get the paint off of both of them. I told my 13 year old he has no video games for a month and he his grounded from going outside after school and he has to clean the mess up in the garage. As I was finishing up with him my 13 year old he didn’t think this was fair. He pretty much told me I couldn’t make him do anything. Kind of funny considering here I am scrubbing paint off of him in the bathtub. Well anyway he then called me an idiot, so I pretty much had it. I hauled his butt right out of the tub, flipped him over my knee and spanked him about 10 times right in the bathroom and in front of his brother as it was almost his turn in the tub. I caught him way off guard and he was crying like he was 9. I didn’t say a word to him the rest of the night… I just finished up with him in the tub, had him get his pjs on and sent him straight to bed.
2006-12-19 09:42:14 · update #1
Do you think I was too tough on them?
2006-12-19 09:42:25 · update #2
I didn't think I came down too tough on them. I hadn't spanked the older one in some time. As I hauled him out of the tub, he said, what the hell are you doing? then once he realized what was going on, it was... NO STOP! and after about 10 swats I stopped, while he was crying I just told him to get back in the tub grabbed his pjs out of his bedroom and finished up with him 2 minutes later.
My 9 year old gave me no problems at all after witnessing that.
2006-12-19 10:34:17 · update #3
I Praise you for standing up to the outrageous behavior, also I respect the fact that you also spanked the 13 yr. old and didn't let the I'm a teenager now mentality he has stand up as I'm a man and you can't enforce any rules now, also if it makes them think before they act next time fantastic. ***something to think about... if it was someone Else's home where it had happened and the police were involved they would be doing a lot more than 2 weeks or a month of grounding possibly 6-24 months of community service and restitution...go easy on yourself the punishment fits the crime
2006-12-19 10:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by sheepish grin 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my kids would be cleaning the mess up themselves, the whole mess this means the tub, the tracking in, etc. and any back talk would get another week tacked onto a grounding that would already be atleast 2 weeks (their attention span is short, they don't understand anything longer than two weeks)...and the older on thinks he doesn't have to mind...he will want to drive in a few years, remind him you do not forget and will not forget this...he may NEVER get to drive if he continues this way or talks back again (i know, he may not LIVE long enough to drive at this rate, eh?)...bread and water for a week...o for the dark ages when children were put in stocks and sent to the factories to work.
i'd still be blistered if i pulled that and backtalked my mother (i'm over 50)...she'd have rang my bell good let me tell you.
and i'd have rang my children's bells good for it, too...they did a lot of things, but they didn't do that. i really think this is one for the books, ever thought of writing one...perhaps when the kids are grown and in college you might consider it (you may need the extra income to help support the college anyway) (or to pay for your therapist, this is why parents loose it, you know.)
my own kid's antics kind of pale, compared to that one. they never called us idiot i'd have skinned 'em alive for that one. (well, it'd be close...they'd THINK they were being skinned alive).
2006-12-19 10:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by captsnuf 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you did fine.
your boys made a stupid mistake, they have both been punished and i dont think they will do it again.
i would of done the same, infact i personaly think your 13 year old should of been spanked anyway, if he is going to act like his 9 year old brother and not be the mature one he should be punished like him.
anyway good for you!
but on a serious note, and this bugs me, dont treat them so diffrently, trust me i am a dad of 4, my elder two are 10 and 13, and if i treat them diffrently i get world war 3, "you love him more then me" etc, now i know punishment has to be age aproprate etc BUT sometimes,when they have both done the samething you have to punish them the same.
look at it from your 9 year olds point of view, they both did the same thing, yet he gets spanked and grounded, his brother would have only got grounded. does that sound fair? no it doesnt, and i think for the sake of family peace you should punish them the same when they misbehave togther, trust me i know from exsperance. this time its ok because your eldest got spanked anyway but in future it might well be worth remembering. i am a dad so i guess its easyer for me but if you have issues which i do understand with spanking your 13 year old, get dad to do it. i dont want to sound like i am telling you how to do your job, i am just offering advice. your 9 year old could well end up feeling very resentful.
2006-12-19 10:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, you did the right thing by spanking them. at least you dont let your kids run all over you like some parents. I know that kids will be kids and sometimes look for new ways to have fun... but they should know better than to have a paint fight. (when they are older maby they would enjoy paintballing).
2006-12-19 10:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. at least you have some disapline for your kids. unlike some parents. assuming they new that they couldnt touch the paint AT ALL? because they are just kids trying to find a way to amuse themselves.
i might have said grounded for a week and no games for a week also, not a month. but after he called u an idiot, then yes it would have quicky changed to a month.
2006-12-19 09:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't apologize, but don't talk back either. Just make your mom think you're being mature and whatever, and just put on your make up when you're at school. Strict parents suck.
2016-05-22 22:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the best! Some moms are so stupid these days they wouldn't dare hit their child. Lame! Anyways I think that the punishment you gave them is fair and next time they will know not to do it. I give you a thumbs up.
2006-12-19 09:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
1. realize that it is really true you can't "make" anyone do anything. they always have a choice (sometimes it is death or suicide but there is always a choice).
2. you need to realize that as your boys get older you need to make sure they do not have access to things (liquor, cigarettes, porn, etc) that they may abuse. This is a wake-up call for you.
unattended with friends or girls in the house the consequences could be worse.
3. punishing them because they were 'bad' is one thing. it's more important to help them understand the consequences (because your dad had to get his car repainted, we have no money for the Xbox you wanted for christmas) or (you will have to help me and your dad repaint the garage wall because your actions damaged it)
4. it's normal for kids to evade responsibility for their actions. they don't think you're stupid. it's not personal. it's your job to teach them that they are responsible for their actions. that isn't automatic in young humans.
2006-12-19 09:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
No, but spanking their butt while its wet hurts 10x more (i know).
2006-12-19 10:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no. it just a part of parenting and a part of life, so you just do what you do.
2006-12-19 09:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Blue Crystal 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋