My boyfriend asked me to marry him after 3 weeks of dating... I don't see the problem in it, but I tried to bring it up with my parents, and i tried to tell them that i accepted, but they just keep freaking out on me and telling me that it's far too soon. We will probably be engaged for 14 months, isn't that enough?
2006-12-19 09:41:53 · 12 answers · asked by Misty Lee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't rush into anything. The divorce rate is way too high because people jump into things too quickly.
I hope it works out but if it was meant to be then it can wait.
2006-12-19 09:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Best DJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can understand why your parent would be sort of upset. They just want the best for you, and to an outsider 3 weeks is an extreemly short period of time. i mean, that's really soon to know you want to get married. However, 14 months is a long time. My engagement is 11 months and we dated for 7 so in the long run it's not THAT much different. But you need to consider your age, where you will live, jobs etc. I know you know this but my advice would be to maybe postpone your true engagement until about a year before the wedding. Just date, have fun, let your parents cool off and get to know this guy, by then they may be more keen on the idea and you will have their complete support. Shorter engagments are the way to go! 11 months is WAAAY too long for me!
luck
2006-12-19 17:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Katie Beth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not enough. Marriage is meant to be a LIFE LONG commitment! Not something you jump into because you think he's cute, he brought you flowers, or you really want to plan a big party. Why not wait 14 months and THEN get engaged? What's the rush? You sound as if you might still be a teenager or in school. Adults don't need their parents blessing or permission to get married, they decide on this as a couple. As someone else here said, engagements are for people who are getting married, not for people who plan on planning to get married.
2006-12-19 21:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you known him for only 3 weeks or only been dating for 3 weeks and have a longer history?
In any event, getting engaged after 3 weeks with over a year of an engagement sounds more controlling than loving. Let's put a brand on her to show she is MINE.
Enagements are for that time in a couples life when they are planning a wedding on this date, not planning on planning a wedding someday.
Unless you are ready to write the check to the caterer, don't do it.
2006-12-19 20:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the engagement is a long one then I don't see the problem. It may be a little crazy to get engaged after three weeks but it would be REALLY crazy to get married right away. If the engagement is long and it works out then why not get married in a year or so? Just reassure your parents that you are not going to rush into the marriage. Good luck! :-)
2006-12-19 17:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by whosyerdaddy 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really think that you can't honestly know someone until you have lived with that person. There is no possible way that after 3 weeks of dating you know that he is the one who is going to make you happy.
Now, on the other side of things, I know of a couple who met and were on their way to Vegas the next day. They got married after meeting ONCE and have been together for almost 2 years. It isn't a long time, but they really love each other and are a great couple.
I have seen things go both ways, so it is really up to you!
2006-12-20 10:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you have known him for. Did you just meet him 3 weeks ago? if yes, i think its crazy to be engaged right now. there are just so many things it takes to make a relationship last and there is no way to tell if you two have what it takes. relationships go way beyond how you feel about each other right now. If you do decide to get married this soon, then please wait at least 5 years before you have kids, because it would not be fair to them whatsoever if you got divorced because you couldnt wait a while to see if you two were right for each other.
2006-12-19 17:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by lisa42088 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three weeks is too short of a time to really know a person. I don't blame your parents for freaking out. I can't tell you that 14 months is enough, but you will know him a lot better by then. Maybe by then your parents will be alright with the situation.
2006-12-19 17:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into it... if it's meant to be it will be in a year or two. I found that most realtionships are great for the first 6 months... then all the little quirks their have start coming out. Wait 6 months, and live with him for at least 6 more months. If everything is great then you should start planning your wedding.
This time will give your parents a chance to get to know him too!!
2006-12-19 17:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not OK. It's foolish. This may be the right guy but you can't know after three weeks. If he's worth spending the rest of your life with, he's worth waiting until you're sure. And you're not. Even if you think you are.
If you want to be engaged, OK. But make the engagement much longer.
2006-12-19 17:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by MathGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋