I'm 17 and pregnant and my boyfriend just turned 18. He wants to get an apartment so I can go and live with him. My mother wont allow it because shes controlling. And I cant do anything because im underage, right? I just turned 17 too and I need to get away!! Not only that but my boyfriend is from Ecuador and isnt legal here yet. He was visiting for the summer when I met him. HELP ME.
2006-12-19 09:40:25 · 13 answers · asked by Emily H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she cant stop u when u have ur baby ur considered an adult plus ur 17 and u can make ur own decisions
2006-12-19 09:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me 17 is young to have a child and you may not know what you are getting into with someone you only met over the summer. have your baby and see how things go, staying with your mother as long as you can is the best idea. Getting married just because you are pregnant is a bad reason. Give it a while if he loves you he will wait for you. Your baby needs to come first take care of it on your own. Good luck and Merry Christmas. Trust in the Lord he will guide your way. Many prayers for you and your new baby, congrats!!! Claire
2006-12-19 18:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Claire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emily what where you thinking. Does your mom know that your pregnant? If so no wonder she is controlling. You need to think of your child and your self. You haven't know this man very long. He comes from a different country. He's parenting skills and way of live is problem different then your. And have you ask your self the ugly question? Did this man get you pregnant so you will marry him and he can stay here and not have to go back to Ecuador.
2006-12-19 18:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by mysticstargoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a child to think about now. Staying with your mom is best for the baby until you can get on your feet. If he is not a legal citizen, he can't get an apartment in his name. You can't either until your 18 and have income and credit. I would be really nice to your mother, get a job and save money. He needs to apply for citizenship. Remember, it's not about you anymore... it's about that baby inside of you. He/She deserves the best... and as a mother you need to give it. Now that you are going to be a mom, have a long talk with your own mom... ya'll have a lot in common now and I'm sure she has some good advice.
2006-12-19 17:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it looks like you have already done somethings without your mother's permission or control. So what is stopping you now? Does your boyfriend have a job. Do you? How are you going to support this baby and yourselves. What happens if your boyfriend gets sent back to Ecuador? Maybe your mom is thinking about these things, and you aren't.
2006-12-19 17:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about your baby. I realize you love your boyfriend, but unless and until he takes steps to make it legal for him to be here, you'd be better off staying with your mom. She's also thinking about you and your baby, her grandchild. Things happen quickly, and what you want or think you need today, isn't necessarily going to be what you'll want later, and it certainly isn't what you need to be moving in with him. If you're still in school, stay in school. If your mom is willing to help you out w/ the baby so you can finish school, take advantage of it. You are only going to put yourself and that baby through a lot of hardship by trying to strike out on your own w/ a boyfriend who is here illegally. Your mom probably wouldn't be playing such hard ball now if she actually saw that you were acting in a mature manner, and are logically, maturely, thinking things through and planning for eventualities. Bringing a baby into the world is hard enough under the best of circumstances, trying to do it this way makes it soo much harder. Please calm down, sit back, and wait.
2006-12-19 18:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Alicia L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can get emancipated, by the time the time the baby is born you will almost be eighteen and graduated high school. Work on helping your boyfriend get citizenship and you both are taking the responsible approach. keep praying and know the Lord does not give you more than you can handle. try talking to your mom, and let her know you are not a child anymore.
2006-12-19 17:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the time being...submit yourself to your mother ...now after a year...when you are already through with your pregnancy then you are already on the legal age to get away from your mom. She will be useful to you in times like this...even on the day you will give birth to your baby. Just be patient and wait for the right time.
2006-12-19 18:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by dimma59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously think you need to put this baby up for adoption. You and your boyfriend are in no position whatsoever to offer a child a stable, secure, emotionally mature, or financially secure home. It's nice that he wants to get an apartment, but if he's an illegal alien, I don't see how he's going to do that without legal status. You made a huge mistake- don't make the baby pay for it.
http://www.adoption.org.
2006-12-19 17:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
here in Indiana you have a job at 17 you can go on your own now some of them left at age 16
2006-12-19 17:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋