I'm normaly the rock my friends come to for advice about guys. But, my extremely good guy friend of mine has become the object of my affection. He's smart, funny, cute in the puppy way, and extremely sweet. It's just whenever I pursue relationships with friends it ends in disaster and the friendship is ruined. Help?
2006-12-19 09:27:50 · 18 answers · asked by bandbunny27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try it you never know it might be different this time or you can wait till he asks you and go from there
2006-12-19 09:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by kayia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well normally i would say just go for it because life is too short but in this case from what you have said i think you should wait a while.
This may be just a crush that will disappear with time, give it some time and see how your feelings grow. If in a while you still like him then go for it, at least then you will know you really do like this guy.
If he is a true friend then I'm sure whatever his answer is you will both stay friends.
Good luck xxx
2006-12-19 09:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ack, I just went through this situation. He was one of my best friends, until we started dating. I broke up with him, and ever since, we have grown farther and farther away from each other. It really hurt that I had to lose him all of the sudden, and now I find myself hoping he will start being friends again. Just from experience, I don't think you should pursue him. There are many other sweet, puppy cute, smart, and funny guys who aren't as close to you. Look to them, because when you and them breakup, you will be guaranteed to still have your friendship with this guy friend.
2006-12-19 09:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jade Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should be honest with him and let him know that you have been thinking about dating him. Let him know that you don't want it to ruin your friendship though. He may be feeling the same way. Perhaps if you made a pact that you promise to tell each other the moment something makes you uncomfortable in a tactful way. You'll never know unless you try and if you don't you may look back on it and wish you had taken the opportunity.
2006-12-19 09:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by thepurplehalo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I professed my love for the girl I considered my best friend. Things went great while we dated and we got married a year and half ago. It has been a total disaster since and we both feel as though we should have stayed friends.
2006-12-19 09:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question. If you keep doing the same thing over and over and expect different results you are showing signs of a mental defect, also known as insanity.
2006-12-19 09:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out with him. Let your feelings develop slowly and get stronger. Most of the fun is in the pursuit and getting to know each other slowly.
Flirt like there's no tomorrow. But pause and reflect as you move slowly. ;-)
2006-12-19 09:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a friend that you really trust ask him if he would ever be interested in you as more than a friend. Be sure your friend does not indicate that you are having her ask...just casually do it. If he says no, just keep him as a good friend. If he says yes, the door is open!
2006-12-19 09:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by harvestmoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u leave this open to a "what if"
if you dont persue it you will always wonder what if, if u like him that much take the risk hun and work at it for the best out come,
good luck hunni xxx
2006-12-19 09:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want to go with him, but dont want to affect the relationship u have now, but if u think it will, its better to hae a long time friend than a short time boyfriend
2006-12-19 09:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by King_Almighty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the risk.
If you decide to risk it, see if he's willing (before you even start up) to stay friends even if it doesn't work out.
Al-a "disclaimer"
2006-12-19 09:31:53 · answer #11 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋