Aubree is 11 years old and I for one am getting fed up with this. She claims mom and dad don't mind it, but I do.
2006-12-19 09:22:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
and this is your business because.....
2006-12-19 11:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Aaron C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you're going to have to get help from your parents with this. They really should be taking care of this problem.
Behavioral intervention is used all the time and always works. Mom says you can't eat dessert until you finish your vegetables. Theres the classic behavioral intervention example.
The problem with swearing is it gains so much attention especially for an 11 year old everywhere she goes (you being frustrated with her is giving her exactly what you want).
Your parents should ignore the negative behavior and reinforce the positive. Strip her room. That's right, take (and by take I mean your parents should take...) all of her worldly possessions away from her room. If she goes on for awhile without swearing, give her a thing back, the longer she goes, the more things she gets, if she swears start over from square one. She'll learn really quick.
2006-12-19 22:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'm trying to quit cursing too. I have a daughter now and she's starting to talk and I no longer feel that cursing like a sailor is appropriate in our household. I've taking to saying really silly things instead of the offensive words. Like fudgemuffins, shnikes, and various other things that kinda sound like the words I want to say but are much more kid friendly. I got all of those from my cousin and I have no idea how she comes up with them.
2006-12-19 21:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to deal with her anger.
There is a excellent book called:
"Working with Anger"
By: Thubten Chodron.
If Aubree is only eight years old, you or your mother or father might want to read the book carefully, slowly and put it into practice, THEN teach Aubree the easy to follow principles in this book. The book provides and teaches wholesome alternatives to anger, without making a person experience unwholesome emotions such as guilt and shame while overcoming this destructive emotion of anger.
The book is really Excellent.
But I advice an adult, such as yourself or your sister's parents to read/study it, then "Patiently" teach these VERY successful principles/techniques in the book
"Working with Anger" by: Thubten Chodron to
Aubree.
The book is about $13.00 at Barnes and Noble, but through Amazon.com a person can purchase it for less than half that price. The book pays for itself. And you can help a multitude of other people that struggle with anger too- with this book and they will forever grateful to you for caring about them.
This book is excellent for anybody to read, who is challenged, even just occasionally with negative thoughts and emotions, such as anger, anxiety, irritibility, impatience, hatred, or discrimination - the book covers this whole range of negative unwholesome thoughts and emotions. It's not a difficult book to understand.
This book has been proven to be very effective by medical doctors, and cognitive behavioral therapists throughout the world.
2006-12-19 17:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we use a swear jar and every f word is 50 cents. sh t and as is only 25 cents and anything worst is 1 dollar. Tell your parents no allowance it will all go into the jar if she does not stop. Maybe mom and dad should mind because it will reflect back on them so go talk to them and let them know and that it embarrass you.
2006-12-19 17:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14 and my sister's 16 and we both have really bad cussing problems that we've been trying to get rid of for years, but it seems impossible.
2006-12-19 17:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by merry xmas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are only her sister, not the parent. there is not much you can do. i highly doubt that your parents either approve or know how bad she is. do they swear? they need to lead by example. a swear jab is a good idea, but all words need to be the same price, because they are all wrong words for any child to use. talk to your parents, and find out how they feel.
2006-12-19 17:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, wash her mouth out with LAVA soap. That worked for a while with my kids. But I have a potty mouth, so that didn't work forever. Do something back that makes her crazy, pick your nose everytime she swears or embarrass her in front of her friends...get some Bubba teeth and a crocheted hat!!! HEEEEhEEEE that will do it!
2006-12-19 17:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by kmoc123 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
talk to her as a big brother and let her know that you think that it makes her look very ugly when she speak that way, and that she should be like a young lady and not speak that way, it don't sound good coming out of her mouth. let me know how she take it. oh yeah if she say that you use bad words, then you stop using those words too.
2006-12-19 17:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by elder2007 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1. yes slap her every time she says a swear...or
2. put a penny every time she says that into a jar and buy an expensive gift and tell her I bought this because every time you swear I put one penny in a jar....tell her see how many times you swear..or swear back say she says some swear and then you say I swear if you say (her swear) then I'll hit you until you crap your pants....
3. bug her like bother her as in stock her, do something weird that she doesn't appreciate and if she asks then say its all because you swear.
4. use reverse psychology...tell her please swear more..if you can't beat em then join em...
2006-12-19 17:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Your parents will have to have consequences for her swearing.
2006-12-19 17:27:53 · answer #11 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋