wen i get married i'll be 20 he doesnt know i'm engaged yet.My mom knows but i dont know how to tell my dad...he is a very scary person at times.how can i tell him?wat makes it worst is he's super strict and over protective.wat should i do?
2006-12-19 09:21:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well, you are really young to get married. does he know your boyfriend? you need to get them better aquainted. other than that, maybe put off getting married until you at least reach the drinking age!
2006-12-19 09:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So im not old enough to be married, but i also have an overprotective, super strict father. The best thing to do would be to have a sit down conversation with him. Talk about school, and just life in general. If you come to a point where you feel confortable talking, just say it, the best thing for a father to know is that his daughter is getting married, and that shes pregnant (only if he hears that after she is married). Its a way to sortof throw his daughter away to another man.
Another choice is to have your soon-to-be husband ask your father for your hand in marriage. It is another thing that sortof hits the heart in fathers.
2006-12-19 17:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by gigglepie2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your dad would appreciate it if your fiance went to him first and asked his permission to marry you. I know it made my dad happy to have his future son-in-law show him that kind of respect. If that is not an option for the two of you, you should just calmly, respectfully, maturely tell him yourself. If he throws a fit, don't over react. Show him you're grown up so he'll treat you like one. I know i keep saying to be respectful, but this really will go a long way when trying to communicate to a hard to deal with person. good luck!
2006-12-19 17:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Katie Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most important: you have to tell him BEFORE you marry that guy, because you put in big danger yur relationship with your father. It's important that you give the news to him. Also it would be preferavle if someone, your mom ad other people would be there to take your part. Also it'll be very good if your biy will go with you ad tell him. Also if your futurebely husband will talk to your father, that he cares and really thinks about you it'll be much better. Courage! You will pass throught this, you know this. So you have to work on how to say to him, and trust me, better sooner! Good luck!
2006-12-19 17:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by asking_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over 18... time to cut the ties. If you live at home and are planning a big wedding... time to get it over with and tell him. If you live on your own, it doesn't matter when or if you tell him. He has no say in how you live your life after you hit 18.
Parents are supposed to be respected not feared.
2006-12-19 17:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by sierra33ok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Create a non threatening situation to tell him. Get him, your mom and his parents together for dinner and make it into an announcement party. He may be upset later, but will have a chance to cool down first.
2006-12-19 17:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your out or high school then you are an adult..he cant control you so you have nothing to worry about just tell him...you will fill a lot better especially if you love the person you are going to marry
2006-12-19 17:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold your head up high and confront him hunni its your life and your decision and he should be proud if he reacts badly then he runs the risk of losing a daughter, potential grand children and a som in law, no real dad would want to do that un less they are not worth it
2006-12-19 17:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even bother telling him if it concerns or scares you so much? That's some dad given what you have said.
Send him a wedding invitation and if he shows up or not, that's his problem.
2006-12-19 18:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him. you are an adult and if he doesnt like it then thats his problem. He cant stop two adults who love eachother from getting married
2006-12-19 17:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by wantme_comegetme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋