I need some Advice in things to say or ways to break it off with my boyfriend. What are ways you have delt with this issues before? I would love to hear what some of you have done to handle this delicate situation. I don't want to cause him any more than I have to in any anger, bad hurtful feelings, resentment or confussion. Can you tell him for me......LOL...J/K......In all Seriousness....HELP!!!!
2006-12-19 09:09:43 · 13 answers · asked by daydreamer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think being honest with him as to why you no longer feel this relationship is working is the best way. Be upfront and tell him your reasons for the split.
Be supportive if he is hurt and remind him that if you are not feeling "it" then it would be cruel to carry on a charade.
If he is angry then allow him to vent, this is a very normal reaction as long as he doesn't become violent. Once his anger passes he will realize you were releasing him from a relationship that wasn't working and now he can move on and find someone who he is compatible with. Expect that he will be hurt but this too will pass.
Treat him the same way you wish to be treated if it were you.
2006-12-19 09:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do it to cause him the least amount of pain possible is to just be as honest as you can without divulging any hateful emotions towards him. Be adult. Sit him down and have a conversation about it. Tell him that there have been problems in your relationship that you just can't get passed or that you feel you have grown apart and that there just isn't any going back. Tell him that whatever it was that was between you seems to have faded away in your opinion and that you're no longer happy and it's not fair for either one of you to go on pretending things were the way they used to be.
He's going to be hurt either way you go but there is no reason, unless he cheated on you, to be hateful about it. State your case as kindly as possible and allow him to feel whatever it is he's feeling. If he's angry just keep telling yourself that his reaction is just do to his hurt feelings and that he really wouldn't be like that otherwise. If he goes off just be calm and say okay. Well, I hope one day we can be friends. And then leave. He'll calm down given time.
2006-12-19 09:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that thing are not working out and you feel like you both are slipping away from each other. You need time to explore life and see what's out there. Right now you feel so constricted and you just need to break free for a while. You love him and you do not want to hurt him this is why you are being so upfront and honest with him. to please forgive you and to know that you do care for him but you need to go on single for a while.
2006-12-19 09:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by sofiedriskell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for an easy way to do this, or a way that isn't hurtful, you're probably out of luck.
It's never ever easy to have someone break up with you.
What you CAN do is be HONEST and straight with him... and just tell him to his face that the relationship isn't working for you. He might be mad or upset, you can't control that... but at least you can do it the right way.
2006-12-19 09:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by S L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure he knows how you really feel about the situation and that you really thought about some not-so-bad ways to break it off. Take caution not to say anything about why and if he asks why then tell him because you dont feel that there's that "click" anymore. Start by..."Look, i really dont know how to say this.... but i feel like we have grown apart. I think we should break up." That should help.
2006-12-19 09:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Tam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You simply tell the other person that you don't feel the two of you are a good match (or not a good match anymore) and you are sorry it didn't work out but wish him well in the future.
2006-12-19 09:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sat him down on the couch and looked right at him and told him it is not going to work and that we are two different people.
2006-12-19 09:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a bullet to the head...it will hurt less than a broken heart
2006-12-19 09:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzard Tongue 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you definantly don't want to stay in something you don't want. Even though your worried about his feelings is that more important than your happiness? He will get over it eventually. Tell him it's you not him.
2006-12-19 09:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by colormespoiled 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be tactful
Be honest
No matter how careful you are in telling him. he will be hurt.
Be honest . he will appreciate that more
Lying to him will cause anger.
2006-12-19 09:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋