I really like this guy but I'm worried about getting too attached. What should I do?
2006-12-19 09:07:52 · 14 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just so you know, we are already really good friends and we are continuing to get closer. I am worried about getting attached because I know that I will not be able to relocate with him.
2006-12-19 09:15:05 · update #1
I was in the same kind of situation and am. My girlfriend who i have been officially going out with for a month is going to be heading out to college in utah next year and i am one year younger and i was feeling the same way you are. I decided to take a risk and started taking her out on dates and stuff about 3 months ago. We are now going out and i am falling in love with the girl and i know that she feels the same way. I know that when she goes to college it will make it hard to stay this close and even if we aren't still officially boyfriend girlfriend i know that we will stay best friends and i know that we wouldn't have been this close if i wasn't willing to take that step and take that risk of getting too attachted. My advice to you is that if you like him that much then give the guy a chance and just hope for the best. Never let anything like that keep you from getting close to someone you could love. Best of luck.
2006-12-19 09:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyInLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get involved, if you really care about him. If you don't get extremely attached, it might just a shortterm thing. And anyway, who says you can't try a long distance relationship? I know, it can be really hard, but if you really care about this guy, it might actually work for you. Another way is you could just become friends. It is much harder for exes to talk, but SO much easier if you don't date in the first place. Bu no matter what you do, make an effort to keep in touch with him. Not only is he the guy of your dreams, but he could actually be a great friend!
good luck!
2006-12-19 09:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jade Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? You might find you like him enough to follow where he goes. Things might change and he'll stay where he's at. At least you will have had the possibility of knowing someone really great. And if he's not all that you think he might be, the relationship may be over before he moves and you worried about it for nothing. Lighten up and live a little.
2006-12-19 09:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Roberta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i would rather have an amazing time with the guy even if its only for a year... Yes it will hurt when he leaves but you will be able to look back on great memories... And who knows if it will last that long... I say go for it... better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all!
2006-12-19 09:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by LaurenLovesYou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me with girl in college. We went ahead and started seeing each other. I had some of the best times of my life with her before she left, but I had some of the worst times of my life after she was gone. But in retrospect it was worth it because I will always have those good memories with her. So I would say go for it.
2006-12-19 09:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by boredatwork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIVE!
Enjoy the time that you have together and learn from this relationship!! It's a part of life , different people will come in and out of your life honey....and GET attached! So you can learn how to come undone in one piece!
Luv,
from Shayla
2006-12-19 09:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting attatched is not a problem, it's a good thing. Even if he's moving, you can always keep in touch with him. Besides, you don't want to miss out on the opportunity you have right now.
2006-12-19 09:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by floppybelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call...if you are unable or unwilling to relocate and you date (generally) with hopes of something long term, then I wouldn't do it...
If you both are kewl with more short term associations and just want to have a good time, for the rest of his time here, then part...then go for it...
2006-12-19 09:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen to this
i am an exchange student...i only had 4 months left...and my (once)best guy friend asked me out...and we started dating....well...he was the type who dumped every girlfriend for another one...and then one night he came over and dumped me for his ex ex and because he was going to miss me when i left...
well...i thought it was going to be "we would have to leave eachother"but it wasn't...however...if it had been like that...i would have been so happy remembering him as my first boyfriend...
you will get too attached, there will be pain, but the memories will be wonderful(unless the relationship ends up bad)...
i say...if he loves you too...don't leave him...have life divide you two(unless he leaves you).
you always have to be ready for a relationship to end...that way it won't hurt as much...as my ex once said when we were together...;(
listen...go out with him.
2006-12-19 09:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you really like each other, make the most of the time you have.
2006-12-19 09:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by Doug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋