What happend to family planning and self control? Abstinence? I'm not trying to pry into other people's businesses but this is the internet and people always tell people on here, "oh I'm pregnant and I'm 20"? What the hell? Why couldn't they just wait on sex till they were married? And it's really weird that everytime I ask some about teen pregnancy, people always tell me off or give me thumbs down. Weird and immature. really! What gives?! I'm 22 and I waited, why didn't they?
Do they really think that having kids young would benefit them?
2006-12-19 09:06:23 · 25 answers · asked by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wait, who are you attacking here? Young teenagers who have sex/get pregnant at a young age? Or people who don't wait to get married to have sex? I first had sex at 19, got pregnant at 26, have 2 kids and one on the way, NOT married and I'm 30. I didn't plan my family, nor do I have a lack of self control. And 20 and pregnant is not that young. 15, well that's another ball of wax.
We are HUMANS and as HUMANS we tend to want to have sex, married or not. If you have self control enough not to have sex before you get married and your now 22, then pin a rose on your nose. I wish I could try to change the world too, but I can't. People are people and they will do what they do whether they are criticized or not.
2006-12-19 09:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by october g 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋
A lack of education. This is the responsibility of the government and most of all parents. I also think you will find that because we have become a much more open society, these issues are talked about much more openly so you do hear of them more. Gone are the days when a pregnant teenage girl is shipped off to a faraway place to give birth and have her child taken from her so that no one has to know! On the other side of the coin I do beleive there is a lack of education in regard to womens fertility. Having children young does have benefits. 20 is young by todays standards but I was 20 when I fell pregnant with my first, as was my Mum. I have friends who are older, that have waited to have children and now hve to turn to IVF because of their age.
All inall I do not think age is an important factor, as much as being in a long term stable relationship and financially secure. You do have a point though. If you are not ready for children, contraception is an option, but not fail safe. If you have sex, unprotected or not pregnancy can happen. If you are not ready for that, then do not have sex.
2006-12-19 09:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
people live there life and think alot differently than you do. Remember back in the 1800's people were marrying their children off as young as 12 and having at least 5 kids at the age of 22. Sex nowadays are becoming more and more accepted as a normal part of life. it's not considered a sacred thing anymore. If you lost your virginity at the age of 15, join the club. Everyone is more curious and more adult minded in their lives, they just want to be normal adults. It doesn't matter what their social status is, or what age they are, babies were born at a early age from the start of time. So the real question is, is why can't you accept the normal way of society and understand that your child will be exactly like all the other human beings out in this world too when it grows up??
2006-12-19 09:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd think it's choice.
Good for you cos you can wait.
But life isn't perfect. I don't think it makes any differences whether you're 30 or 20. people in other countries got married at 14 and got pregnant at 15. My friend got pregnant right after high school (she was 18) and started her family right away. She and her bf had live together for 4 years now and they have 3 kids.
It's good if you find the one and be married at 25. But not everyone is that lucky. I'd say, when you have kids, you have something to hold on for your future. I'm 22 and I have a 5-month -old with me. With this kid, I'm sure I won't be alone when I'm older. Plus, my folks are in their 60s, who knows how much longer they gonna be around (the life expectancy in my country is 62,4), so at least right now the have a grandson.
2006-12-19 09:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by meetha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am 23, married for 1 year, no children yet. But most of my friends have children (some married, some not). None of them would ever say that their children were mistakes, they would only say that they are blessings. Is it hard having a child so young? I can only imagine that it is!!! Do they miss out on some important things? Probably! Are they part of a miracle? ABSOLUTELY!! I didn't wait for marriage to have sex, and now being married, I understand the importance of sex and wish I could take it back. But everything I have done has made me who I am, and I believe that you are suggesting that there is only one right way to live your life, and it's great that you have that enthusiasm and beliefs, but not everyone does, and the sooner you get over that fact, the happier you'll be!
2006-12-19 09:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by jnmhuddleston 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I got pregnant at 17 years old. Guess why??? Because sex feels good!!!!!!!!!! That is why. I am currently 25 and I am happily married. I have been for 8 1/2 years. My boyfriend that got me pregnant is now my husband. I think people get defensive because so many people judge so harshly. I knew having kids young would be difficult but it isn't nearly as hard as what I go through being a young mom and having people judge me. That is harder than anything my children throw at me. Perhaps you should stop worrying about why we all got pregnant so young and worry more about why you are judging us all? Just a thought. Don't mean to tell you off or anything.
2006-12-19 09:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was married at 20 but what can you say. I think alot of the reason is because of lack of education about how to get pregnant. People on here ask if you can get pregnant from oral sex and hand jobs. It's good you waited but other people don't. Sometimes people think about what feels good and forget about protection etc. Ignorance is not always bliss. I think it mostly boils down to miseducation or some parents being to afraid to talk about sex or say I don't want you having sex, but if you do come to me so we can get you on birth control and condoms. I am not for premarital sex, but what others do is not our business. What your children do however is.
2006-12-19 09:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is no one reason. Each teen that gets pregnant has different circumstances than the next one. As far as family planning; are you talking about being on birth control until you want a child? or just strictly abstinence? I have 2 birth control babies so there goes the whole "Why couldn't they be on birth control," idea. My parents were married so there goes the "her mother was a single mom," idea. You're comparing apples to oranges here. Like fruit teen pregnancies are what they are; teen pregnancies. But you never know the true details until you know the pregnant girl personally.
2006-12-19 09:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
No, I don't think having kids benefit them, not everyone is the same. Some people are sexually active, don't realize the danger of getting pregnant . Some are told different stories, if they did ask. But it only takes one time of enjoying sex to get pregnant!!
2006-12-19 09:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by moon_stars_sun2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abstinence has always been the least effective form of birth control. You can have sex 3 times a week and still abstain 99.9% of the time.
Sex is one of the poorest excuse for marriage
They may not have benefited from having parents like yours.
2006-12-19 09:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋