My ex doesnt know i still love her?

Question

i wanna forget about my ex cuz she over me (i know that as a fact) but yet i still think about her, and we agreed to be friends, she was my first love and its been 8 months since we broke up but i still love her should i tell her? i dont wanna get rejected

Answer 1

If she's over you, then you need to find a way to move on. Realize that there are plenty of girls out there, and that the perfect one is out there for you somewhere.

Going back to her and professing your love again will only hurt you even worse when she rejects you again. If she's over you, then expect rejection.

Remember this is nothing against you as a person, it's just that you two were incompatible. Trust me, the first love is the hardest, but if you don't get past that, you can never appreciate who your true love will be.

Answer 2

Keep it to yourself if you have moved on. I was married for 20 years. Now I'm remarried for the last 8 years and I still dream of my ex...and I DON'T LOVE THE GUY! It's like a nightmare! But I figure it's my mind working out 20 years of the relationship and it's just not finished yet. Eight months is not a long time. Get yourself involved in something to replace those thoughts and if you really love her, don't go fu*cking up her life; let her go. You'll find it's the best thing you can ever do for her. Godloveyou and have a blessed holiday.

Answer 3

I wouldn't-it's been 8 months man and also you said yourself that you know for a fact that she's over you. I wouldn't be friends with her-I'd cut off as many ties as i could with the chick. Since she's your first love, you will probably never forget her or some of the feelings you had for her. But think about what caused the breakup.

Answer 4

Telling her just sets you up for more heartbreak if you know that she is over you. I had a similar experience and made that mistake only to extend the heartache. My advice is to put some distance between you two for a while until you are able to accept the fact that you two will not have that kind of relationship again. Pretending to be her friend and not have those feelings just makes it harder on you not her.

Answer 5

2 Options:

#1) Don't talk to her, don't see her, don't think about her. It'll go away faster, and will leave you feeling better, and feeling better will leave the door open for different girls.....some of them may be hot.

#2) Suck it up and tell her everything, do it while looking good, not not too good, ya know? Don't rehearse it, just go with it.....maybe one rose, no more though. Tell her it's okay if she says no, but you had to try because you really like her....oh which reminds me don't say love until she does, you don't want to come off crazy in love.

If this doesn't work see option #1.

Answer 6

You may be afraid of getting rejected, but what if you don't tell her and she feels the same way...you will go on never knowing what might have happened. Think positive, I told my ex that I still loved him and we are married now! Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

If you know for a fact that she is over you, then you are really going to make yourself even sadder by telling her you still love her. The worst thing you could have done for yourself is to accept her "kind" invitation to remain friends. Maybe it was her way of letting you down easily. You have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again. I know its easier said than done, but you do have it within yoursel to do it. What you need to do for your own sanity is to cut contact with her altogether. If she ever cared about you, she will understand your need to cut contact. I think it would be fine to tell her that you no longer want anything to do with her because everytime you see or talk to her, it hurts you, and its time you moved on. If she doesnt want the "friendship" to end then I would really be questioning her motives. If she doesnt want to let you go, then she is being selfish. No wonder you cant get over her if you are still thinking about her as a friend. And if she is still contacting you "as a friend", then nothing will change and you are not giving yourself the time and the space to get over her. We all have a first love, and some say we never forget them. You probably will never forget her, but you certainly will be able to go on and find someone you can love even more. With time, your first love, will just be a fond memory. Time is your best friend......you need to give yourself that time, and the only real way of doing this is to use self control. Feelings dont go away over night, so the only way you can put a handle on this is to use your self control. You can sit alone and think loving thought of her every night, or you can push her out of your mind, and say to yourself...enough is enough...8 months pining for someone is quite enough. When loving thoughts come into your mind. Get up, go out and do some kind of physical activity. Keep on doing this until the thoughts of her fade....I guarantee they will, but whilever you are constantly thinking about her, you wont move on. You have to find a way to stop thinking about her....Maybe ring a good mate and tell him you are having trouble getting over your girlfriend and when you get too consumed with her can you ring him to talk about it. You have to do your best to get her out of your mind, and the only way you can do this is to get her out of your life physically. Yes, it will feel like it is the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but for your own sanity and peace, you really have to do it. This is your life, and the longer you sit and pine, the longer you are putting your happiness on hold. There is a perfect girl/woman for you, but whilever you are pining over a lost love, you will miss the opportunity. You just never know what is around your corner, and you have to let go of this girl, if you are ever going to see around your corner.

Good luck...No, you dont need luck because you do have the strength to do this. Everyone has personal power, you have just chosen not to use it. Say to yourself....this is the first day of the rest of my life, and start doing things to get back into life again. It is in the doing that you will you know that you have the strength to get over her. I guarantee with time, you will go on to find the true love of your life.

I wish you all the best and merry Christmas.

Answer 8

It is lost cost. Move on, concentrate on your school. There are plenty of girls around.

If you insists, you will get hurt, rejected and embarrassed down the road. Give her your best wish and move on. If you love somebody, set them free.

Answer 9

i would tell her it sounds like u all ready got rejected what is there to lose if she ses get lost then i would get over her

Answer 10

u will always love ur first love but u need to move on